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what should i do now?

I met a guy online long time back.Since i did not trust anyone i showed him a picture of a different girl.We fell in love n got into a relationship.Oneday i confessed what i had done.He was very upset but still accepted me.I was very happy that i didn't lose him.But after that he lost trust in me.But as time passed we fell deeper for each other,he even asked for my naked pics n i din refuse because i was ok with it.But even now he does not trust me.What should i do now?ISharing naked pics was a great deal but still i did because i thought he'd never leave me n so i convinced myself to go for it.I don't want to lose him but i guess his feelings are fading.I am broken.Its been almost 10 months that i confessed the truth still he finds it tough to believe me.I am not a bad person i just made a mistake.I want to gain his trust back..though i have tried my best i do not know wt to do?Plz help me.How should i deal with it?
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You really don't know his man, this is an online "relationship" and you know nothing about him. People can be very fake online and lie. He might be married for all you know. And giving him naked pictures was a bad idea, I would never do that. Please don't meet up with him, it can be VERY dangerous. And also, just stop wasting your time with him. He's just playing with you. It's time to move on. Try going out with someone you've met in person, that way you can really know who you are with. I know it can be hard to totally open up to a person, but you'll have to do that eventually no matter what. Try dating around for a little bit and open up slowly. At first keeping everything general and simple. Good luck
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Well I'm pretty much just repeating what everyone else has said, but I felt so strongly about this that I had to chime in. I think you should stop wasting all this time and energy on this guy. If he was genuine, he would have met you in person by now. But it could be a blessing that you haven't met him- this guy could be anybody! A pervert, murderer, prisoner, or at the very least, married. I listen to an advice show on the radio- Dr Joy Browne- and her advice is to communicate online with someone for no longer than 2 weeks, because any longer than that and it can become a fantasy romance. The best way to do online dating, IMO, is to get some basic info from the guy and figure out if he is for real (ask for his full name and where he lives and has lived before- then look up the name on PeopleFinder, it should come up with his age and previous addresses). Then make a date to meet in a public place. Tell a few people where you are going before you leave to meet him, and don't go anywhere alone with him! You should refrain from drinking too- lowers the inhibitions too much. Good luck finding some real life, available, honest men. They're out there, but I don't think this guy fits the description!
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It sounds to me as if he's using this "broken trust" as a way to manipulate you. What you did is not a big deal, people do it ALL THE TIME on the internet. It's a safety precaution for heaven's sake, it's not like you cheated on him or even met him for that matter. I agree with the others, I advise you to not meet up with him. If he's manipulating you online, he'll do it in person and maybe even worse.
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Honesty is always the best policy. But this is real scary, You need to block him asap! And why are you sending naked pics over the internet. Anyone can get them!
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an online relationship is not like a proper relationship to me, trust is priority in relationship

its not like seeing someone and going out places with them, if you've never met then id erase  the person completely

this is a very dangerous situation to get into, as most of the people arent who they say they are, they are paedophiles, people in jail, sickos who we shouldnt meet up with at all.

i dont use any chat room other than this one.

my personal opinion is ban them, how many people have gone to meet the person and been murdered.

get rid of this person you've met online, beacuse i abet you his photos isnt him either
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All I can say is be careful and that if you really go through with it, don't worry about the bleeding.
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134578 tn?1693250592
Kritzee, this guy could be 50-year-old married man.  He could be a prisoner.  He could be an abuser.  He certainly sounds like he is perfectly willing to hold things over your head in emotional blackmail.  You are cooperating in him tying you in knots.  Think!  The romance is fantasy, he is just manipulating you.  You might use TinEye or one of the other Internet photo searches and test the naked pictures you sent him.  If he has put them up on the Internet, it will find them, and you can see what he has done with your photos.  He doesn't sound kind at all, he sounds controlling.  I'd get away as fast as you can, and would be sorry you ever gave him identifying information about yourself.
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13167 tn?1327194124
Kirizee,  heavens.

Why are you putting up with this crap in an online relationship with some guy you've never even met.

You're in love with someone you've created in your head,  not this guy.  You don't know him.

I went to your profile and you are saying you're planning to have sex with this guy,  and you're a virgin and you hope you bleed because he'll leave you if you don't.

DON'T GO MEET HIM.  THIS IS HOW WOMEN GET KILLED.  

He sounds like a complete and total weirdo.  If you insist on meeting him,  meet him several times in broad daylight at a restaurant before you are alone with him.

You probably won't follow this advise,  but it's very very good advise and you are in danger with your behavior.
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