what should i do or think?

[dgrant16]

Me and my friend have been chillin for 7 months now and we just made it official due to situation concerning his baby's mother and everything that comes with it. Ive been here by his side the whole time and everytime he has a moment of weakness and says he think we shouldnt b together or what not he always comes back in a day or two and says he sorry. I love him to death now as i should after seven months but sumthing in him keeping him from feeling the same. He treats me like he loves me but says he doesnt and doesnt see himself changin in the nxt few months, so he decided it might be better to just not be together because he doesnt want me waitin on him to say he loves me when he aint feelin that when i think, he does and is just scared to let himself feel it, or accept it, because of his past relationship with his ex and how she left. I just dont know what to do, i could see myself marrying him and his family treats me like we already married. I know he loves me,but he says he is not in love with me. should i just let it all go even though dats not what my heart is saying because i know that he over thinks alot and gets confused with situation when he is stressed. How do u let sumthing like that go. And how can he say he doesnt love me when he shows it in everything he does for me.

[dgrant16]

I know i was not clear. We just made our relationship official. he has a daughter and the daughter's mother live in MS whereas we live in GA. She hold the daughter over his head and tells him stuff like she will make it hell if he is with sum1 else and she may even tell him that she will make it so that he wont see him daughter. The ex is so jealous that he chose me over her, and she uses the daughter to make him rethink everything. Everytime we get better and happy, she says something to him and then he tells me that maybe we should hold off. He is only saying this to my knowledge because she is telling him that she will not move to GA with his daughter, whom is now visiting him, to stay because of me, and how the relationship would cause problems. He shows me he loves me, but says he doesnt want me to go thru that situation because he knows that the trust would fade if she moves to GA because he would visit his daughter. So the situation is that we make up, she tells him he is worthless and a bad father, and everything else, then he takes that out on me. Then a few days later he comes back to me. Its a cycle, and i think he just need to get stronger and stand up to his ex and take her to court before any of this will end. If he doesnt want to be with me why does he keep coming back when i leave him alone.

[jo929]

from your post it would appear that your boyfreind of 7 months wants out of the relationship and you do not, i beleive that you are wasting your time on him he says he does not love you and i do beleive. it. so quit chasing him and forget about him and go on with you life you sound very young and confused also if you try to keep the relationship together he will end up dilsliking you very much let go and find some one who loves you step back and think this over and quit chasing him he will only run faster       luck  jo

[Isabelle1963]

He treats me like he loves me but says he doesnt and doesnt see himself changin in the nxt few months, so he decided it might be better to just not be together

look at what you wrote.  pay attention to it because if he's saying this....he means it.  

Live your life and raise your child.  there's no sense carrying a dead dog around

good luck

[RockRose]

I can't understand what you are saying.

You've made it "official" but you're not married,  but his family is treating you as if you're married.  

What have you made "official"?  

Honestly,  I'm not trying to be rude,  you're not speaking my language.