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Why are you a SAHM?
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Why are you a SAHM?

Do you stay at home because you think you should? (or your husband/family)
Do you enjoy being at home with the kids all the time or are you counting down the days until you can work again?
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I stay at home for several reasons: I feel like it's best for my family; it's best for me; it's cheaper than paying for daycare; & I breastfeed which makes working difficult.

Right now, my oldest 3 are in school, so it's just the baby and me at home.  In one sense I would like to work so that I could keep my brain functioning, bring home a paycheck, and have adult conversation, but those desires don't outweigh my desire to be a SAHM.  My mom always worked and I hated that she wasn't there for us on a daily basis..
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When do you plan on going back to work? Or will you stay a SAHM after your baby starts school?

I still think that it is good for the kids for their mums to stay home during primary school. There is so much to help out with and be involved with in their schools. I would love to stay home until high school starts for the youngest one, but family and friends expect me to go back to work.
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when i was  12 weeks pregnant m ob told me NO MORE WORKING. it stuck. lol. i LOVE being a sahm. i do it now by choice. we (dh and i) REALLY did not want to put our kids in daycare and miss out on their lives. their milestones and what not. so i've been with them just about every waking moment since they were born. it has given me time to work on being a writer (which i just finished writing the 1st book in my series) and i can keep my house SUPER clean. :o) i'm a total germ a phob. i HATE dirty things!
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I don't have any immediate plans to go back to work.  The kids get home from school around 3:30 and it's hard to find a job that fits between school open & close times.  I might actually be able to BE a homeroom mom or something when DS2  starts school in 5 years.  Until then I can't/couldn't because of the youngest.
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i just found this forum so cool!!
i have a son that is 11yrs.  i worked when he was born so i missed so much.  i always wanted to stay home. i loved my job and being with my friends, but when the daycare told me he took his first steps and i missed it!! well i vowed if i had more to stay home.

i now have a dd that just turned 2yrs and im pg with another.  sure some moments during the occational day i want to have some time to myself, but i couldnt imagine my days not being with them.  now wait till #3 comes and i might change my tune haha (jk).
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Welcome!  I can't imagine not being there for my kids' milestones.  I worked in day care years ago and we made it a point to NOT tell moms (unless they asked) about important "firsts."  The kids CAN drive you nuts and sometimes you get desperate for grown-up conversation, but it's all worth it!
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Hi!  Great idea for a group!  Well,  when I was 7 when they asked everyone what they wanted to be when they grew up---------- most of the other girls said teacher, actress, archeologist, etc. . . . but not me, I said I wanted to be a Mommy. I did all the things I was suppose to-------- college, grad school, etc. and started a career that I enjoyed.  I worked a lot and dated.   And dated.  And dated.  And then I was in my 30's before I met a man that I thought I could marry.  When he decided that I might be someone he could marry he took me out to dinner and we "talked".  We were there for hours.  We told each other what our ideal picture was of married and family life.  He had his hot buttons and I had mine.  We came down to 2 things each that were deal breakers.  I'm now Catholic and he has a wife that stays at home with the kids. (won't get into the other two here, lol).  Not so romantic to have a business meeting like this as it kind of seemed like, but it matched our personalities and there were no surprises once we married.  We originally said I'd work 2 days a week after kids.  I had a good job and it was kind of hard for us to give up the money.  
Then . . . it happened.   That beautiful boy arrived and everything changed.  My husband who had had to be "convinced" that a wife at home was a good thing had no doubt.  I went back to work one day and our baby got pink eye.  He said----------  "can you quit" . . . and I coyly said "um, sure honey."  And the rest is history.

I now have two kids that are age 6.5 and 5.5, they are 15 months apart.  One in first grade and one in kindergarten.  My husband travels a lot and being at home with that as my main focas lets me keep everything running smoothly.  I still have one home half a day with me and mourn the loss of kids at home when he goes to first grade next  year.  I am a regular fixture at the school and volunteer for everything.  I hope I always can.  One of my children also has a developmental delay which means that I'm extra involved at times.

Now, will I go back to work?  Hm.  Never to my old career which people can't believe.  But it was emotionally draining.  So I may re invent myself down the road and who knows where that could lead.  But it will always be just a "job" vs. my passion which is my kids and husband.  

Staying at home has made me more fulfilled than any job I ever had.  It was a good choice for my family.  
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I have ALWAYS wanted to be barefoot and pregnant. LOL truely that is waht I said in school in kindergarten, haha I have been a SAHM for well since I was pregnant with my frist and he is 13 and 1/2 now. I love it and would never do anything different. I have babysat at times for money when I was single but I went with what was working fo rme at the time in conjunction with my kids.

Now my 3 oldest are in school 13,12 and soon to be 11 and I stay at home with my 8 month old and can't wait to have another little one!

I was brought up with my single mom since I was about 7 and she hardly ever worked outside the home, she usually babysat for money for all 4 daughters. I am a firm believer of moms staying home. I am a budgeter and not care for name brand clothes really either nor do I like shopping so it works. I have worked with budgeting with other families who thought both had to work and  helped them have a SAHM too. Goodness for the gas, babysitting, and higher taxes when both work it just does not seem like anyone would want to work.

I like being the moral teacher to my kids! I have nursed all 4 and tandem nursed the second and third. My first set were 13,15 and 17 months apart. Yeah that adds up to an extra baby in there, she was born early and did not live long:( Sweet baby girl she was!

I do miss being able to have adult conversations sometimes and I moved and not made firends yet, well with in visiting distance. I live in the rural moutians and not much around these parts. Going to town is a daily venture and I get as mouch done as I can in my trips. There arefood deliveries in my area and no super walmarts! but I love it here and there are more constructiv ethings for the kids to do.

I would not have it any other way!
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