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Condom s and STD’s truly concerned.
Let me start as many have before that I have made a very stupid mistake. I am a devoted family man and have never strayed. Yes I have had the occasional strip bar experience but that was it never went beyond that until recently. On a business trip I had too much to drink and my decision making was hindered because of it. I totally own my actions but I could have made better desions without the alcohol. My client decided pay for a sex worker for us. She looked very thin and I am afraid she was but unconfirmed a drug user. When we went back to our hotel room I was so nervous I could not get erect we used a condom at all times. Before she placed her mouth on my penis I placed a condom. We proceeded to have vaginal sex but again I was not fully erect and very flaccid. One of us at all times held the condom in place. My nerves have begun to get the best of me and I am imagining every illness under the sun. My thighs and genitals have a burning sensation. I am sure this sensation is mostly from nerves as I do not want to destroy a 17 year marriage for one night of my stupidity. Could please help me become more at ease? What is my risk factor here for HIV or other STD’s? I have read many posts saying no problem when condom is used but I could not get fully erect and fear I may have missed something. I am waiting for 3 weeks after the incident to get tested to hopefully help me on my piece of mind. If I develop something I will be sad but if I give something to my spouse I will hate myself. I am avoiding all sex with her until I get some of these results but I am unsure how long I can keep that up. Please help me and provide some insight I feel very alone, scared and stupid. Regards,
did you go and get seen for your symptoms you were having or did you just get blood testing done without an exam?
I want to thank everyone here thus far for the support they have shown me. I reached a point in my life that I can no longer look at myself in a mirror. I did not like what I saw. In order to fix that I needed to talk to my wife and without too much detail tell her what I had done. I know you all are not counselors but maybe this will serve another family man somehow. Don't do it it’s not worth it! You are playing with your health, your marriage and your future no matter how low risk. It isn’t worth it in my mind! At this time I am still unsure of my STD status but at this point I no longer care. I did not sleep with my wife so my actions are my own at this time in that regard. If I find I have anything I will disclose it to her. Life360, gradefromHHP, and others thank you! I know this is low risk but my conscience and ability to live with myself saw this as high risk.
Sorry but I am freaking out again. The lower portion of my scrotum where my anus begins has a burning feeling and discomfort. I have had it four 2 days now. I am so frightened that this is herpes. I tried taking pictures so that I could see it but it's impossible to tell what is going on. I tested yesterday and can't wait for those results. I know that the herpes test isn't very reliable the IGM early antibody testing but it may provide a clue. Could this be a herpes infection? If it is its just my luck I would get it in my anus. Someone please tell me your thoughts
pubic hair is there for a reason - it helps to protect our delicate genital skin. shaving the pubic hair off completely can cause cuts in the skin that would increase your risk of contracting a contact std like herpes. make sense?
I found this article. It makes sense but I am sure it only boasts a percentage or two because hair can also be pulled by accident and leave the whole open in the skin.
Well this is also making me feel better though so ill take it, your thoughts Grace?
Article:
Some doctors are telling their female patients to quit the waxes to preserve their health. They say that the waxing causes small cuts on the skin which allows infections to get into your body. Another purpose of pubic hair is a barrier against friction during sex and other activities, to protect you. You don’t want bacteria, STD’s or infections to get into your skin through these tiny cuts that may not even be visible to the eye.
I worded that question very weird and it has cased me not to understand your answer.
I don't shave.
Does shaving increase the risk for HSV or HPV?
Does not shaving increase the risk because it causes microscopic cuts?
Sorry I got lost on that one can you elaborate please.
I don't shave.
Does shaving increase the risk for HSV or HPV?
Does not shaving increase the risk because it causes microscopic cuts?
Sorry I got lost on that one can you elaborate please.
yes it does probably increase your risk since it creates microscopic cuts in the skin.
Does not shaving the genitals help the chances of not catching hsv1/2 or genital warts? I am going to get tested tomorrow and as you can tell I am very nervous!
many things can cause sore throats- viral infections , GERD and post nasal drip are most common.
all hiv related questions need to go on the hiv forum however since it was a protected encounter, no real reason to test for hiv. we do recommend condoms for good reason - they work well for most std's!
all hiv related questions need to go on the hiv forum however since it was a protected encounter, no real reason to test for hiv. we do recommend condoms for good reason - they work well for most std's!
Recently time is helping me understand that this was low risk. And I know I have been a nervous Nili about this but I do have a couple more questions.
1. A sore throat since Nov. 23rd its mild and bothersome could this also be triggered because of my STD anxiety?
(I do have a mild case of hives and upset stomach I think all caused due to stress.)
2. Is rapid testing any good?
(I see many websites saying that they can do HIV PCR/DNA testing at 28 days with good results, Also this would rule out Chlamydia and Ghonoria for sure. I found a site called stdlabtest.com expensive testing but they say that their rapid testing is good. I am willing to shell out the $600 to be tested for everything and test again at 3 months. I just want to protect my partner she is everything to me & I have been staying away from intimate contact)
1. A sore throat since Nov. 23rd its mild and bothersome could this also be triggered because of my STD anxiety?
(I do have a mild case of hives and upset stomach I think all caused due to stress.)
2. Is rapid testing any good?
(I see many websites saying that they can do HIV PCR/DNA testing at 28 days with good results, Also this would rule out Chlamydia and Ghonoria for sure. I found a site called stdlabtest.com expensive testing but they say that their rapid testing is good. I am willing to shell out the $600 to be tested for everything and test again at 3 months. I just want to protect my partner she is everything to me & I have been staying away from intimate contact)
this was a low risk encounter but since you have a regular partner, following up with herpes and syphilis testing is a good idea. syphilis can be tested for after 6 weeks an dherpes after 3 months. we don't have commercially available tests for hpv to cover your other risk.
should you avoid sex with your wife for 3 months? that's your choice.
should you avoid sex with your wife for 3 months? that's your choice.
LIfe, I have been able to narrow most of my seemingly symptoms to nerves and self pitty much as the Doctor and you have said. 1 week after the encounter my tests for all STD's came back negative. I know that this is to soon for HIV, SyPH and HEP 123, but here is my question. DO you think its safe to resume sexual relations with my wife? Or should I wait for the 3 month tests? I am still really beat up about this.
when to test for what is listed in our read before posting post to get the proper times for when to retest for the infections you were tested too soon for for peace of mind.
According to all knowledge that we have, protected sex and using condom properly and consistently throughout the sexual intercourse process should have no worry in any STDs. Even there is, the chance to get should be extremely small that we can neglect it. Indeed I think unless symptoms do occur if not any tests are not required!
Also note that the test was chlymida and goneria amp probe test (what ever that means) they took urine and blood. HIV Elisa and Hep and Herpies tests All negative. I know it's to soon for these viral ones but it helps a little bit. Are these good tests?
Grace! You were correct I was in a dry climate city and wore tight pants the rash went away started to disappear as fast as it came. Bu just applying cream and loose clothing. Sorry for the overreaction on that one. My doctor also decided to do a STD test for Gono, , Syph, Hep A thru C, HIV, . Pretty early for from the day of my interaction. The test was done a little over one week. I want to wait for a full 30 to 60 days for another test. I just want to be safe and have done a good job of not having intercourse with my wife. Only symptoms I have are itchy, or hives on the skin and upset stomach. I relate this all to nerves right now. Please let me know your thoughts on this and thanks to all of you so far you have been very supportive!
Hey anyone out there? I am really frightened right now. I have a rash on my inner thighs. It's really red and somewhat painful. (Fire /Indian burn painfull) OMG do I have an STD? What should I look for to tell if its an STD or not. It will be 2weeks since my encounter this would fit the some of what I have read. Also my stomach is upset and I have loss of appetite. I am really scared right now please let me know something?
Life and others here have been doing a great job but I would also like your advice on my risk for herpes and HPV as every where I read it says that there is risk of catching this even with condom use. With the more I read the more it scares me.
Life, yes your right my anxiety is because I am concentrated on what she did for a living. As you said she was very nice and I even remember asking her about STD's she said she was clean and got tested all the time. Thinking back she did her best to be careful too. So my anxiety after reading this has calm down. Can't wait to get tested on Monday to help the anxiety. Ok so now my anxiety is on HPV. I keep reading that condoms can't stop the spread of this virus. What is the likely hood of contracting this virus as I have heard it is easier to catch than even herpes?
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Hi, symptoms of gono are real burning and alot of white discharge 5 days after contact. if you dont have these then you dont have gono or chlymydia absolutly for sure. Whe you get these there is no doubt as you cannot pee without big time pain. As for syphilus and herpes you need sore to sore contact which neither of you had. You have a common cold as you said you felt the cold coming on and if you look back at other colds you had, the feeling was the same, a cold comes on.
Also i thing that your over judgeing the girl because what she does. These people are not disease dripping people with all kinds of plagues, they are ordinary people with families and feelings and most likely take care of their bodies for protection more than most.
I think your judgeing her is causing part of your anxiety. Did you talk to her as a person? Im sure she was nice to you and needed the money. Have you talked to your friend who was with you in the room?
Just take it easy and think of nice things, you just made a mistake and your afraid, but fear is good as will keep you in line if this comes up again.
dave
Also i thing that your over judgeing the girl because what she does. These people are not disease dripping people with all kinds of plagues, they are ordinary people with families and feelings and most likely take care of their bodies for protection more than most.
I think your judgeing her is causing part of your anxiety. Did you talk to her as a person? Im sure she was nice to you and needed the money. Have you talked to your friend who was with you in the room?
Just take it easy and think of nice things, you just made a mistake and your afraid, but fear is good as will keep you in line if this comes up again.
dave
I saw what the doctor posted and it was very encouraging. You have also encouraged me thank you for that. I have had a hard time to sleep tonight because I am beginning to feel ill. My throat has a low pain like I am developing a cold and stomach has been very upset. The doctor said this could be all mental but I did notice that these are also symptoms of either syphilus or gono. as you can imagine I am getting concerned. When you mention symptomless what specific symptoms should I look for? Soars, discharges, I have none of these but I also need to wait for 14 days or more for possible symptoms of Herpies. I was calm until I stated to feel this cold coming on.
You're too kind but, we are just merely individuals just trying to help. There is no need for a fee or favors, just live your life and be happy just as Life 360 had put it.
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Dont worry be happy!!!! Its thanksgiving and again be thankful your STD symptom free.
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