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Anal warts OR Ingrown Hair OR Hemorhoids???
I've recently had protected sex with a girl and noticed some sort of growth around her anus. We first had sex at new years and 4-5 times since. I wasn't sure what it is and did some online research and it looks like genital (anal) warts. It looks rather large say about slightly larger than the size of a quarter and is protruding from her anus. Looks like it is right on top of it and protrudes out say about 1" or slightly under. First I thought it was rectal prolapse, but then saw these things that looked like little warts. It looks like partial or complete rectal prolapse with warts in it. Does that make sense? The coloring looks dark pink or gray. Then I saw that genital warts can look like cauliflower and grow on top of each other.
She and I spoke this afternoon and she said that her doctor told her that it was an ingrown hair. The doctor said that the only cure would be to have it surgically removed, but it would be painful. He told her to just be careful when shaving around that area. She says that she discovered it about 1-1/2 years ago and it scared her as well and swears she is telling me the truth. I've know her for about 19 years and don't know whether to believe her or not. I know it wasn't herpes and don't know which it might be... Anal warts OR Ingrown Hair OR Hemorhoids.
I've read that symptoms of genital warts don't show and there really is no test for it. We've both agreed to go and get tested fot STDs. Little scared as this could affect the rest of my life as I've always been so careful. Any ideas on what it might be. I'm not worried if it's hemorrhoids or an ingrown hair and it doesn't look like herpes. So I have the following questions.
1) Can it be an ingrown hair? Can an ingrown hair get that infected to look like that?
2) If it is genital warts or herpes is there anything I can do right now to help prevent my chances of getting it?
3) Are there questions that I can ask her to help figure it out i.e. does it hurt to the touch? does it change in size? does it bleed? does it have pus? anything that might give me more information to figure it out?
4) Will her GYN provide a document saying she doesn't have any STDs or tell me what she has so I know whether or not to ask for it.
She is going to schedule an appt with her GYN, but this is really worrying me and don't want to wait on her if I can avoid it (although that will definitely tell me.
Thank you for a quick response,
J
She and I spoke this afternoon and she said that her doctor told her that it was an ingrown hair. The doctor said that the only cure would be to have it surgically removed, but it would be painful. He told her to just be careful when shaving around that area. She says that she discovered it about 1-1/2 years ago and it scared her as well and swears she is telling me the truth. I've know her for about 19 years and don't know whether to believe her or not. I know it wasn't herpes and don't know which it might be... Anal warts OR Ingrown Hair OR Hemorhoids.
I've read that symptoms of genital warts don't show and there really is no test for it. We've both agreed to go and get tested fot STDs. Little scared as this could affect the rest of my life as I've always been so careful. Any ideas on what it might be. I'm not worried if it's hemorrhoids or an ingrown hair and it doesn't look like herpes. So I have the following questions.
1) Can it be an ingrown hair? Can an ingrown hair get that infected to look like that?
2) If it is genital warts or herpes is there anything I can do right now to help prevent my chances of getting it?
3) Are there questions that I can ask her to help figure it out i.e. does it hurt to the touch? does it change in size? does it bleed? does it have pus? anything that might give me more information to figure it out?
4) Will her GYN provide a document saying she doesn't have any STDs or tell me what she has so I know whether or not to ask for it.
She is going to schedule an appt with her GYN, but this is really worrying me and don't want to wait on her if I can avoid it (although that will definitely tell me.
Thank you for a quick response,
J
Thanks for the response. If it is genital warts its the cauliflower cluster I've read about on the internet. I have appt 2/4 to get tested although I understand that with men there aren't many tests available until after symptoms show, but am going to get tested for everything I can. I have been tested before. After I got divorced, but have't had sex with anyone since and everything was fine. I don't trust her completely and didn't notice it until this last time and put a stop to sex. My health is not something I joke around with and this is really bothering me. Anybody else have ideas of what this might be?
Respectfully,
j
Respectfully,
j
COMMUNITY LEADER
Yes, her GYN should be able to identify this.
Even without treatment, warts typically don't linger for that long. Its also HUGE for a wart.
You can ask her to get copies of her std tests showing they are negative. Have YOU been tested before? You could have an std and not know it, too. Since you are on a kick to get her tested, the least you could do is get tested yourself.
It sounds as if you don't trust her. If you don't trust her, why are you sleeping with her? Have you continued to have sex with her after noticing this? If you have, you can't be all that bothered by it, really.
AJ
Even without treatment, warts typically don't linger for that long. Its also HUGE for a wart.
You can ask her to get copies of her std tests showing they are negative. Have YOU been tested before? You could have an std and not know it, too. Since you are on a kick to get her tested, the least you could do is get tested yourself.
It sounds as if you don't trust her. If you don't trust her, why are you sleeping with her? Have you continued to have sex with her after noticing this? If you have, you can't be all that bothered by it, really.
AJ
Thanks for the response. Let's say she's not too proactive in taking care of her regular exams and maybe she just let it go. Had a real bad break-up with her ex and hasn't been herself last 2 years.
I've had an ingrown hair before on my back and it looked nothing like this i.e. just a big pimple. I wasn't given any meds, but hers is right there on her anus and doctor just said be careful when you shave around there. Have you seen pictures of genital warts where they grow on top of each other? This looks a little like that/ I asked her several times if she was lying to me and she said she wouldn't do that (Lie or knowingly give me an STD) to me and would go get checked out.
It does sound a little weird, but I don't know what an ingrown hair around the anus looks like. Can her OBGYN test her for STDs and identify this? Just curious... what makes you think it is not a genital wart? Any ideas what it could be? Also, what proof can I get she is clean?
Sincerely,
j
Anybody else have input. Want as many opinions as I can get until she gets tested. Thanks.
I've had an ingrown hair before on my back and it looked nothing like this i.e. just a big pimple. I wasn't given any meds, but hers is right there on her anus and doctor just said be careful when you shave around there. Have you seen pictures of genital warts where they grow on top of each other? This looks a little like that/ I asked her several times if she was lying to me and she said she wouldn't do that (Lie or knowingly give me an STD) to me and would go get checked out.
It does sound a little weird, but I don't know what an ingrown hair around the anus looks like. Can her OBGYN test her for STDs and identify this? Just curious... what makes you think it is not a genital wart? Any ideas what it could be? Also, what proof can I get she is clean?
Sincerely,
j
Anybody else have input. Want as many opinions as I can get until she gets tested. Thanks.
COMMUNITY LEADER
An ingrown hair that has lasted a year and a half and he's given her no meds, etc?
Something about that isn't right, and I'm not saying she's lying. Perhaps she doesn't understand.
I doubt its a wart, though. If I were her, I'd get a second opinion.
Her gyn can give her copies of her test results, but won't sign some kind of document, I'd guess.
Aj
Something about that isn't right, and I'm not saying she's lying. Perhaps she doesn't understand.
I doubt its a wart, though. If I were her, I'd get a second opinion.
Her gyn can give her copies of her test results, but won't sign some kind of document, I'd guess.
Aj
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