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BRIEF unprotected sex, protected vaginal sex: what is my real risk of STIs?
Hello, thanks so much for your help!
I had my first (and only!) sexual encounter with a sex worker on November 21/22. We had very brief unprotected moment of oral sex when she placed her mount around my penis. I immediately stopped her and demanded a condom. I put it on, and we continued to have oral sex. We then had vaginal sex, protected, though the condom rolled down a bit. The head and opening on my penis remained fully covered however.
We then took off the condom, she fingered herself vigorously, and gave me a vigorous hand job. I asked her afterwards about her status, and she claimed to be negative for it all. Who knows.
My questions are about my real risk for STIs. I am partnered. I seriously regret this decision, tremendously, and am eager to return to a normal sexual life with her. But i don't want to give her anything, but I also don't want to wait six weeks for conclusive tests for STIs (herpes, that I was not at real risk of contracting anyway.
1. What is my real risk of Gonorrhea and Chlamydia? I plan to do an early detection test in a few days and if I am negative, is my risk low enough that I can resume unprotected sex with my partner without waiting for the conclusive testing window?
2. What is my real risk of Herpes and Syphilius? The waiting period is so long (6 weeks) for conclusive results, but if there is not real risk of having contract these STIs, do I really have enough reason to worry about them to hold off on resuming normal sexual practices with partner until I have conclusive results?
3. What is my real risk of HIV and HEP B? From what I understand, its so low that i need not even worry about it, except to take a test at 6 weeks, but that it is not enough of a concern to warrant not having sex with my partner, is that correct?
I want to be safe with my partner, but I'd like to know just how real the risk is that I contracted something, based on the specific details of this regrettable encounter.
Thank you.
I had my first (and only!) sexual encounter with a sex worker on November 21/22. We had very brief unprotected moment of oral sex when she placed her mount around my penis. I immediately stopped her and demanded a condom. I put it on, and we continued to have oral sex. We then had vaginal sex, protected, though the condom rolled down a bit. The head and opening on my penis remained fully covered however.
We then took off the condom, she fingered herself vigorously, and gave me a vigorous hand job. I asked her afterwards about her status, and she claimed to be negative for it all. Who knows.
My questions are about my real risk for STIs. I am partnered. I seriously regret this decision, tremendously, and am eager to return to a normal sexual life with her. But i don't want to give her anything, but I also don't want to wait six weeks for conclusive tests for STIs (herpes, that I was not at real risk of contracting anyway.
1. What is my real risk of Gonorrhea and Chlamydia? I plan to do an early detection test in a few days and if I am negative, is my risk low enough that I can resume unprotected sex with my partner without waiting for the conclusive testing window?
2. What is my real risk of Herpes and Syphilius? The waiting period is so long (6 weeks) for conclusive results, but if there is not real risk of having contract these STIs, do I really have enough reason to worry about them to hold off on resuming normal sexual practices with partner until I have conclusive results?
3. What is my real risk of HIV and HEP B? From what I understand, its so low that i need not even worry about it, except to take a test at 6 weeks, but that it is not enough of a concern to warrant not having sex with my partner, is that correct?
I want to be safe with my partner, but I'd like to know just how real the risk is that I contracted something, based on the specific details of this regrettable encounter.
Thank you.
Herpes questions post in the herpes forum.
And Grace is not around all that much anymore, so she probably will not follow up with you.
And Grace is not around all that much anymore, so she probably will not follow up with you.
Grace, thank you so much for your response.
A few follow up questions, if I may, about herpes (HSV).
1. It has been 9 days and no symptoms. I know a lot of people who have HSV1 and HSV2 are asymptomatic, but that is usually after the first, initial outbreak right? For persons who are newly infected (either with HSV 1 and HSV 2), do we know what the symptomatic rates are in general? In other words, how likely is it that I, 9 days later, would notice symptoms if I were newly infected with 1 or 2?
2. Related: I know that symptoms could take as long as three weeks before they appear, but this is highly unlikely, correct? Would you agree that it is mostly like they would appear 2-10 days at most, and most likely within the first 5 days after possible exposure by oral or vaginal sex with HSV1 or HSV2 positive partner?
Basically when can I stop inspecting myself for herpes and believe that the unlikely event of a herpes transmission during this single sexual encounter did, in fact, not occur? I will, I think, get tested for herpes at 4 or 6 weeks, along with HIV (just to get a negative baseline, if nothing else), but a sense of when I can stop checking my penis constantly would helpful.
THANK YOU
A few follow up questions, if I may, about herpes (HSV).
1. It has been 9 days and no symptoms. I know a lot of people who have HSV1 and HSV2 are asymptomatic, but that is usually after the first, initial outbreak right? For persons who are newly infected (either with HSV 1 and HSV 2), do we know what the symptomatic rates are in general? In other words, how likely is it that I, 9 days later, would notice symptoms if I were newly infected with 1 or 2?
2. Related: I know that symptoms could take as long as three weeks before they appear, but this is highly unlikely, correct? Would you agree that it is mostly like they would appear 2-10 days at most, and most likely within the first 5 days after possible exposure by oral or vaginal sex with HSV1 or HSV2 positive partner?
Basically when can I stop inspecting myself for herpes and believe that the unlikely event of a herpes transmission during this single sexual encounter did, in fact, not occur? I will, I think, get tested for herpes at 4 or 6 weeks, along with HIV (just to get a negative baseline, if nothing else), but a sense of when I can stop checking my penis constantly would helpful.
THANK YOU
you had no risk for gonorrhea and chlamydia. condoms protect well for those.
Your risk for herpes and syphilis was incredibly low. Honestly not worth any testing from this encounter for either.
Hiv and hepatitis are also well protected against with condom use. I wouldn't bother to test for them either.
grace
Your risk for herpes and syphilis was incredibly low. Honestly not worth any testing from this encounter for either.
Hiv and hepatitis are also well protected against with condom use. I wouldn't bother to test for them either.
grace
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Grace, thank you very much.
Do you agree that there's no real concern about either (1) the brief unprotected moment of oral contact and (2) that the condoms rolled down a bit during the vaginal sex?
Do you agree that there's no real concern about either (1) the brief unprotected moment of oral contact and (2) that the condoms rolled down a bit during the vaginal sex?
Grace, if you could follow up to this, I'd be really, really grateful. I know you are busy, but you are the only one I can get to respond. I'm having a real hard time here. Thank you. I am having a hard time squaring the apparently high rate of HSV diagnosis and the rather consistent consensus among you, HHH, and others that in cases like mine, transmission of HSV2 (assuming my partner was positive and/or shedding) would be very rare, unlikely, and so does not warrant my concern, especially in regards to being HSV2 infected and passing it on to my partner. Thank you - if you could just give me a few minutes, I'd be grateful.
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Herpes spreads by oral, vaginal and anal sex.
Herpes sores blister, then burst, scab and heal.
STIs are the most common cause of genital sores.
Millions of people are diagnosed with STDs in the U.S. each year.
STDs can't be transmitted by casual contact, like hugging or touching.
Syphilis is an STD that is transmitted by oral, genital and anal sex.
