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How long can gonorrhea last
I was just informed from a guy I had sex with one  month ago that he was tested positive for gonorrhea, but my boyfriend before him got tested and he does not have it. My current boyfriend advised me that he only started having the symptoms 3 weeks after having sex with me. How did this happen??????   I recently went to the doctor and are awaiting the results. I am so scared.....
Could it be possible that my current boyfriend  had the disease before and the symptoms started to show after he had sex with me...

I just want to know how do people who have had this disease move on with their lives. I feel like my life has end.

The guy that gave me this devastating news told three of his friends about the incident and he is now getting treated, he still wants to be in a relationship with me, but i really hate him because he made his friends think that i was the one he got the disease from when I think it is vice versa.  What do you suggest I do????
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YOu wait for your test results and if you test positive then you get treatment. Gonorrhea is very curable and is a STD that a lot of people get.

Your current bf if he got gonorrhea and started showing symptoms after sex with you then he got it from you. If Gonorrhea is to show symptoms it starts 2-30 days after exposure, if he had it before you then he would have had symptoms before you.

I ask you please not to be too upset, gonorrhea is common. This is just a lesson for you to use condoms.

But if you test negative then that means this guy who is showing symptoms got it from someone else.
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thanks but if he had sex with someone two weeks b4 me and the symptoms didnt start showing up after sex with me, then it would still be in 30 day range..... but how would i get it if my last boyfriend dont have it, he tested negative... and i have not had any more partners....

I cry both day and night, get drunk and high every night after i found this out because i feel like if i did give this to this poor guy then i am so low.... even though I havent had that much sex partners...i still feel like a *****.

I want to die!!!! Never in a million years did i expect to hear this, that someone i had sex with caught an STD and I may have been the one to give it to them... hope it is not too late for me ( like i got HIV or something ) and i can be more responsible and use a condom next time.....
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Your last boyfriend could have taken something to cure the gonorrhea and that is why he tested negative, or your current boyfriend could have given it to you. You do not know how he got it and you don't know if you got it.

I think you need to see a therapist because you are on a destructive path that is not good. Gonorrhea as I said is very common and very treatable.
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I agree with Vance.  You are being WAY too hard on yourself, and too easy on the guy who's sharing your sex life with others.

If he's had multiple, unprotected partners in a short period of time, and you test positive for it, there isn't going to be any realistic way of figuring out who had it first.  

BOTH of you went into this not talking about stds, and not using condoms.  That means that even if you had it first, he just got luckier for not having anything before.  You are not a bad person, there isn't anything to be embarrassed about - STDs are EXTREMELY common, and its estimated that at least 50% of people will have on in their lifetimes.  Half the people in the US can't be dirty and low and whatever other names you are throwing at yourself, right?  They just got an infection.   Would you be freaking out like this if you gave him strep throat or mono?

Hang in there, ok?  I agree totally with Vance's suggestion that you talk to someone about this.  Your on a self-destructive path and are very very hard on yourself.

Aj



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I just want to thank both of you for replying to my post. I really apprecaite it. I guess this is just a mistake for me to learn from...


Thank you so much...
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OK i just got my results today and they were NEGATIVE!!! I was checked for all STD and they came back negative could it be a mistake because my boyfriend says he did not have sex with anyone after me and that the last time he had sex was three months before me. So I am thinking that maybe I should change doctors or maybe I should wait a few week and test again to see if i get  the same results.... I am glad for the support from auntijessi and vance....


Thank you very much
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thats good that u came out negative...im still waiting for my results till tomorow cuz i dont think i have gotten an STD ive just had a urinary tract infection but i dont kno i still need to get the results
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You are probably negative. You can test again but I don't think that the result is going to change. False positives/negatives do happen but it is very rare and normally only happens when you are on antibiotics or you did something to mess up the test. As long as you either used the first urine of the day or did not urinated at least 1 hr before the test then you are in the clear.
So there is a chance that he did have sex with someone within the last 30 days but only he kows for sure so I would not accuse him but maybe just talking with him

I am glad to hear of your results.
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Vance I did not do a urine test, the doctor used the test called culture test I think            ( where they push that thing up there and then swab my thing).


Jay i i hope that ur test comes out negative and i know what u are going through waiting fro those results, but all u can do is pray and trust me prayer helps. And if ur tests comes out positive just know just like Vance told me it is a part of life... u are not the first and u wont be the last.

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