Need help making my girlfriend feel more ok about having hpv and having given it to me!

[Mogwai23]

Dear Doctor,
       My girlfriend got an std from a person before we started going out.  She was tested and everything came up negative as I know it can for a while.  But eventually she started to feel discomfort during sex and got tested again and was positive for HPV.  The doctor told her that it was low grade and non-cancer forming.  She also hadn't developed and warts, but I have.  I am currently applying Aldara to the infected areas and my doctor says they should go away in several weeks.  My concern is that she is totally freaking out that nothing will be the same again.  She thinks that we will just keep passing HPV and Genital warts back and forth to each other till the day we die and that there is no way we could still have a happy and healthy sex life.  She acts like her life is over.  I was hoping you could comment back about whether or not life is really over and whether or not we can still have a good sex life.

[reddyright]

I found out I had hpv 5 years ago, and went through the same thing she is going through.
I didn't have a boyfriend, but I grieved and grieved and grieved.
I really did think my life was over....

Ya'll should just not have sex for awhile, wait till the warts go away,
and also, I think it would be good to initiate conversation with her,
because I'm sure she wants to talk about it all the time, but
doesn't mostly, because she's afraid of beating a dead horse.

[gracefromHHP]

This is not HHH's site.

I encourage you to check out the hpv message board at www.ashastd.org.  You'll get good help over there.

grace