Risk of STD?

[rickyricker]

Here goes, last night I met a strange "girl" on Craigslist. i say "girl" because even now I am not really sure it was a "girl". "She" had a vagina ... but some alarms went off .. tall ... deeper voice .. kind of strange generally.

Anyway, we ended up having sex. For a few seconds, I STUPIDLY, inserted my penis into "her" vagina and pumped maybe 5 times before coming to my senses, pulling out and then putting on a condom to finish the job. We had sex in the morning (I used a condom). She also blew me with no rubber.

"She" did not really seem to have much vaginal fluid ... I was maybe in there unprotected for a five seconds ... I did not *** inside her or anything like that. that makes a difference, right?? i mean if i had been in her for longer and came inside that would increase the odds (if she had anything, which she claims not to) ...

Anyway, am I at risk for any STD/HIV? "She" assures me she is clean and even offered to show me her "papers" proving this ... but I've probably come off as a paranoid weirdo myself now in asking her about it so many times and I just don't know ... I mean, people lie right?

So ... what are my odds here of getting HIV or another STD? If she is a transgender ... I have no experience here ... but her vagina seemed pretty normal. Do transgenders (MTF) have more/less incidence so HIV/STDs?

She is about 35 and I think is kind of a **** ... she is not a sex worker (works at the post office, even worse). She said she had not had sex in about a month before last night.

Also, I'm kind of curious about transgender (MTF) vaginas and if they are capable of transferring any diseases .. i mean it's not really a vagina ... no real "juices" came from her ...

I am probably paranoid but please help me with some medical facts that speak to this and my chances of having caught anything.

This was so stupid. I do not want to catch anything! I swear I am done with these types of random hookups!

HELP PLEASE. I am embarrassed and ashamed.

[auntiejessi]

BGarza -

We don't judge here, and you are wrong in just about everything you said.  

Even if you rinsed your mouth with HIV infected blood (quite the analogy), you probably wouldn't get HIV.  It still has to get into your blood stream.  Its not something I'd recommend, though.

Its also 3 months, not 6 months, and by the end of 2 months, about 95% of folks will show positive on an HIV test.

In any case, watch the attitude.

Ricky - you are nicer than I am.

Aj

[rickyricker]

i think there was a miscommunication. no, she does not carry her test results with her. she offered to show them to me at her house at a later time.

i am not sure how sexually active she is. she says she hadn't had sex a month prior to our encounter. she was in a relationship before that.

i hear you about risk and i know i made a mistake and believe me i won't do it again.

reading the other posts and responses to mine and the others has me feeling a lot better but i will still get tested.

i think your facts may be off about timeline. from what i've heard 3 months is the gold standard for HIV test, but you can get tested before that as the overwhelming majority of positives will show up before that.

thank you for your note though, i do hear you and appreciate you taking the time to reply. thank you again.

[bgarza1624]

Just read about your little problem, just the simple fact that she offered to show you papers should have set off an alarm. Here you have someone who is obviously sexually active with numerous partners that she or he took it upon themselves to get tested and carry their papers around with them. In most cases it takes 6 months before HIV will show up on any test available. So with that in mind, if your boyfriend got tested yesterday, it would only reflect the HIV results from six months prior to the test. Which means if he/she had contracted HIV 2 months ago, a test today would still not reflect anything. You should slam your **** in the door when you do something like this! Furthermore it does not matter if you only pumped 5 times or if you slept with your **** in him/her, that would be like saying rinse your mouth with HIV infested blood for 5 seconds then spit and rinse, brush your teeth, gargle with clorox etc, if this were the senario I do not think you would do it, because you know the risks, you should be that carefull when putting you weiner in strange places.

[auntiejessi]

Most likely, tired and paranoid.

Get some rest and see how you feel after.

Aj

[rickyricker]

UPDATE: okay, so it's a week later since this episode. i have been working hard all week (at work) and traveling a bit too.

last night i started feeling a bit woosy. a tiny, tiny throat ache. a tiny, tiny fever.

any chance this is an early sign of an STD or am i just tired/paranoid?

i'm going to get tested for everything next week.

[auntiejessi]

You can test for gonorrhea, chlamydia and NGU at a week, syphilis at 6 weeks, HIV at 3 months and herpes at 4 months.  (Most people test positive way before then for HIV and herpes, so if you want to test early, you can.  Just know it might not be 100% accurate.)

If it was only for 10 seconds, I really wouldn't worry about a thing.  Really.  

If its been awhile since you tested, then test - always good to know your status.

And don't lead the poor girl on.  If you aren't interested in her romantically,  just ask her to see her results, but don't make a date out of it.  This is your worry, not hers, and don't make her suffer for it.

Aj

[rickyricker]

PS: i am going to stay in contact with her and keep everything on good terms so i can get a peek at her papers like she offered. i'll try and set up another "date" even though i really would rather never see her again just to look at the papers. i really should follow thru with her offer. thanks for the kick in the butt.

[rickyricker]

Thank you for your comments. I am much calmer today than I was yesterday. I would say the total time of unprotected sex was less than 10 seconds. The rest was with condoms.

And my s l u t comment was only in that I suspect she has had many sex partners .. it just added to my fear. But your point is taken.

I will get tested anyway, even though like you say my risk is low. I do not want to have any STDs obviously and even more so I do not want to transmit anything to anyone in the future. I am going to abstain for a few months at least.

One more question: when do you suggest I get tested (for all STDs)? I have heard you should wait at least a few weeks after the incident for everything that might  show up to show up.

Thanks and have a great day!

[auntiejessi]

OK first - some education.

If this person had a vagina, she's actually a woman.  Its a real vagina, and she is capable of transmitting infections just like any other woman, whether she was born female or not.

That said, just because someone is tall, has a deeper voice, and might be dry vaginally, it doesn't make them transgendered.  Some women produce more lubrication than others.

Now, none of that matters.  The risk is still the same.  She was at least negative when she tested to get the "papers", right?

You said she offered you her "papers" - did you look at them?  You should have.  You could have seen the date on them, and then you could know if you needed to test.

You had basically a few minutes of unprotected sex.  The rest was protected.  That reduces your chances a lot.

Personally, I wouldn't worry overly much about this.  If you had no doubts about her gender, would you still be worried?

And really - you met a stranger on the internet, and went to have sex with her.  She might have had a lot of sex partners - you probably won't ever know - but if doing this makes her kind of a s*** - what does it make you?  

So all in all - your risk is probably low, but you should test if you are concerned.  

Aj