Whats the possibility?

[Overlystressed]

Miss AJ

Need your opinion again.  This past weekend i fingered a bar girl (i couldnt see visible cuts on my finger), sucked ****, and received a hand job.  My real concern is when receiving the hand job she used her saliva for lubrication.  She spit approximately 3 times.  The room was dark so i couldnt see if there was blood or if she had sores in her mouth.  She did have braces which concerns me regarding the possibility of cuts in her mouth.

Should i have any concerns regarding this encounter?  What are my risks with STD's and hiv?  Is this considered safe?

Thanks!

[auntiejessi]

No risk whatsoever.

Aj

[Overlystressed]

Thank you for your honest response.  

Just a follow up question: a hand job with possible vaginal fluid and/or blood is still no risk for STD's and HIV?  What if dry blood got in contact with precum?  Would you recommend me testing for STD's and HIV?  Am i okay to have sex with wife?

Yes i need to look for help and i will do that.  I hope i find a counselor with your personality to help with my issues.  You are the best!

[auntiejessi]

Hi there -

I see no risk for anything here.  

And I wholeheartedly agree that you need some help to figure out why you are doing these things.  I don't know if you are an addict - a counselor could help with that, but you do need to talk to someone about all this.

Good luck to you!

AJ

[Overlystressed]

Yup i screwed up again with the same bar girl last night.  Besides telling me (yes i deserve it) how stupid i am, please give me your honest opinion.  

I fingered her vagina but the finger i used had skin that was peeled off behind my finger nail.  It wasnt sore (no open wound just a layer of skin was peeled off).

Also she just recently had a breast reduction and made her areolo (sp?) smaller so there was dried blood (blood scab where i assume there were stitches) around the areolo on both of her breasts.  She touched her clitoros (during the my fingering part) and touched her breast (when she showed my what she had done) a few times during the hour or so we were together.  She gave me a hand job (this time i insisted no saliva) to end the night.  Room was dark so i could not see her hands and my penis has no sores or abrasions.

Questions:

1. Is the fingering vagina part safe for STD's and HIV?

2. Do you think i need to be tested for STD's or HIV for the hand job since there may have been vaginal fluid or some blood (i think the blood on her breast was dry) on her hand?

3. She told me she was clean but im still stressed.  When breast reduction surgery is done in the US do they always test the patients blood for HIV prior to surgery?  

4. Is what i did safe and would not put my wife in danger of STD's or HIV?

Yes i probably need help with this addiction.  I cannot live with this stress.  Its killing me.

Thanks again for your wonderful work on this forum helping people like me.

[auntiejessi]

Nope.  Its NO risk for anything.

Again, no std has ever been transmitted by a handjob.  Ever.  None.  :)

Aj

[Overlystressed]

Auntiejessi,

You are the best!  Based on your response, I assume what i did must be safe.  I didnt want to add stress from my previous mistake in April, but did.

Is it possible to get genital herpes from the spit?

[auntiejessi]

No, its not similiar to unprotected oral, because with oral, any oral bacteria has the chance to enter your urethra.  With a handjob, this doesn't happen.

If there was bacteria or virus in her mouth, a few drops of spit wouldn't have enough in it to infect you.  There has NEVER been a case of std or HIV transmission from a hand job ever.

AJ

[Overlystressed]

No risk meaning for STD's and hiv?  

Wouldnt this be similar to getting unprotected oral?  

I keep getting myself its these stupid stressfull and guilt situations.  I would never have unprotected vagina or anal sex.  So what i did is considered safe?

[auntiejessi]

Hi there -

I am sorry I hadn't responded until now.  My computer had a meltdown last night, and I just couldn't get online.  I do answer all questions when I can.

There is no risk from a handjob, with or without saliva.

AJ

[Overlystressed]

Please answer my question above.  Thanks!