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Worrying myself to the point of anxiety attacks!
Hello Doctors,
This occurred between May 30-31. I have had cold sores (HSV-1, went to a doctor a few years ago and was confirmed) since I was a kid (most likely from my mother who got them regularly). I had an outbreak on the 27th on the bottom left part of my mouth. To make a long story as short as possible, I had a little too much to drink and ended up visiting 2 separate asian massage parlors for the first time on the same night. At the first, she washed my body with her bare hands. Then she proceed to give me a massage. She placed a condom ( looked very thin) with her mouth and gave me oral for a minute or 2. She then placed some lube on her vagina and came on top. We then proceeded to doggystyle until completion, I touched condom to guide it in. I never gave her oral, or kissed her, but I played with the outer part of her vagina. I may have then put the finger in my mouth! I finished, she checked the condom and cleaned me with a wet towel.
At the second place, the asian massuse cleaned me with a hot wet towel (smelled a little like rubbing alcohol). She placed a condom (felt thin) with her mouth. She sucked on my balls and proceeded to blow me (deep throat). She then came on top. We then went into missionary then ended with doggystyle. I rubbed her clitoris, did not insert finger. I might of again put finger in my mouth! . She took off the condom with towel and then proceeded to clean me with the same towel. I touched the condom to guide it in.
In both instances, the room was a little dark so I could not see if they had any lesions or open sores on there body or face/mouth. My cold sore was scabbing or starting to scab but dont know if it was bleeding at the time.
My questions:
1. Did I just open myself up to STDs and HIV?!?! Does the fact that I already have an STD make it worse since I licked/sucked my finger after it touched the vagina??
2. It has been 5-6 days since the incident, and I have been feeling pains in my penile area, abdomen pains, burning sensations when I pee (phantom?). This morning, I think I had a clear white discharge in my underwear but it could have been pre-cum from my morning erection? IS this a symptom? What should I look out for?
3. Should I avoid having sex with my wife until I get tested for everything? Do I need to get tested? When should I get tested? Now?
4. When I woke up in the morning, I noticed I had a cut on the finger I rub the girl's vagina with Dont know if I had it before or after. Assuming before, does this make my chances worse?!?! The cut looked fresh. Right now, the finger looks healed and no pus or extreme redness.
I have never done anything like this before and have always been faithful. Since then, I have been living off 1 meal a day and less then 3 hours of sleep from worries and anxiety. I must of read every post on your site pertaining to STDs and HIV and I am FREAKING OUT!!
Please help!!!
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correct - hsv2 is the risk from protected sex.
either bring a paintbrush to PA and help me paint or put on some knee pads and help weed my garden :) Both will keep your mind off your nether regions and exhaust you to the point where you forgot you had something to worry about :)
either bring a paintbrush to PA and help me paint or put on some knee pads and help weed my garden :) Both will keep your mind off your nether regions and exhaust you to the point where you forgot you had something to worry about :)
Thanks Grace and you are correct. Roaming the Internet is freaking me out. I will take you advice and stay away from searching for symptoms and try to ease my mind.
In regards to stds that I have to worry about, when you say herpes I am assuming you mean hsv 2, since I get cold sores already, correct?
In regards to stds that I have to worry about, when you say herpes I am assuming you mean hsv 2, since I get cold sores already, correct?
Hi Grace,
It has been 28 days since post exposure and have a doctors appointment for Monday. I am getting the STD panel test and the RAPID TEST (too early?).
I am just writing because in the past 2 weeks my legs and buttocks have been feeling very sore. I feel sore when I sit or stand and my legs especially the back of the thighs feels like they are being stretched when I walk. If I am laying down, they feel like they are tingling.
My mouth has been dry a lot lately and it feels like I am having trouble swallowing. I have been having green bowel movement and sometime diarhea. Sometimes I cough too. Are these signs of anything or is anxiety causing this? Can anxiety cause this?
Should I be concerned? Sorry to bother you with more questions after so long.
It has been 28 days since post exposure and have a doctors appointment for Monday. I am getting the STD panel test and the RAPID TEST (too early?).
I am just writing because in the past 2 weeks my legs and buttocks have been feeling very sore. I feel sore when I sit or stand and my legs especially the back of the thighs feels like they are being stretched when I walk. If I am laying down, they feel like they are tingling.
My mouth has been dry a lot lately and it feels like I am having trouble swallowing. I have been having green bowel movement and sometime diarhea. Sometimes I cough too. Are these signs of anything or is anxiety causing this? Can anxiety cause this?
Should I be concerned? Sorry to bother you with more questions after so long.
too early to be accurate for anything but gonorrhea, chlamydia and trich.
usually just itching is jock itch or irritation.
usually just itching is jock itch or irritation.
Sorry about writing again but my anxiety just shot up another level. I read I can get a 8 STD test as early as 7 days from LabCorp. Is this correct or is that too early for any STDs?
I am sure this is purely my anxiety but my penile head has been itching alot currently. Is that cause for concern?
Again, my apologizes
I am sure this is purely my anxiety but my penile head has been itching alot currently. Is that cause for concern?
Again, my apologizes
is it likely you contracted syphilis, herpes or hpv from these encounters? no but since you are married, your partner deserves you getting tested for what you can at the proper times to properly cover your bases.
condoms aren't much help for reducing transmission of syphilis, herpes or hpv. totally up to you if you want to have sex or protected sex with your regular partner until you can get all your testing done.
you having hsv1 orally is not a std. it doesn't have any bearing on your risk of a std.
grace
condoms aren't much help for reducing transmission of syphilis, herpes or hpv. totally up to you if you want to have sex or protected sex with your regular partner until you can get all your testing done.
you having hsv1 orally is not a std. it doesn't have any bearing on your risk of a std.
grace
Sorry to ask another follow up but I guess my main worry is passing anything to my wife.
If I have protected sex with her, is it safe?
If I have protected sex with her, is it safe?
1. I gave you detail on risk it's your call to have sex or not.
2. No HSV-1 has nothing to do with the risk or lack of risk you had
More herpes info post in the herpes forum.
2. No HSV-1 has nothing to do with the risk or lack of risk you had
More herpes info post in the herpes forum.
Also, if I already have herpes in the mouth, I have to worry about it somewhere else too? Sorry to post again but just thought of it.
Sorry to follow up. You lifted the biggest load off my shoulders!!
2 Questions:
1. Should I abstain from sex from my wife until I get tested or is protected sex okay until I get tested or it doesn't matter?
2. Even though vaginal fluid got in contact with my HSV-1 sore, I had protected sex? The sore was just scabbing and red. It could have gotten wet from the table wash. I hear that getting STDs are alot easier if you already have one that is active. With white cells so close to the surface, won't STDs, HIV have a lot easier time getting in?
Again, thank you so much!
2 Questions:
1. Should I abstain from sex from my wife until I get tested or is protected sex okay until I get tested or it doesn't matter?
2. Even though vaginal fluid got in contact with my HSV-1 sore, I had protected sex? The sore was just scabbing and red. It could have gotten wet from the table wash. I hear that getting STDs are alot easier if you already have one that is active. With white cells so close to the surface, won't STDs, HIV have a lot easier time getting in?
Again, thank you so much!
1. No not from protected sex, really no real risk.
2. Don't look for anything, I bet your current "symptoms" are anxiety based
3. From protected sex I see no need for testing. But if you must only possible risk is Syphilis-6 weeks, Herpes-3 months and HPV-no test in men
4. No risk
Suggest you seek a therapist to help you deal with anxiety and guilt.
2. Don't look for anything, I bet your current "symptoms" are anxiety based
3. From protected sex I see no need for testing. But if you must only possible risk is Syphilis-6 weeks, Herpes-3 months and HPV-no test in men
4. No risk
Suggest you seek a therapist to help you deal with anxiety and guilt.
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Herpes spreads by oral, vaginal and anal sex.
Herpes sores blister, then burst, scab and heal.
STIs are the most common cause of genital sores.
Millions of people are diagnosed with STDs in the U.S. each year.
STDs can't be transmitted by casual contact, like hugging or touching.
Syphilis is an STD that is transmitted by oral, genital and anal sex.
everything sounds anxiety related that you are experiencing right now. turn off the computer and go live life! stay active and have fun!!! not worth worrying about things that you can't change at this point. just follow up on your testing at the proper times to be as responsible a partner as you can be at this point.