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genital warts

Hey I'm 25 years old and I contracted what looked like warts when I was 18. I recieved them through my first partner and didnt find out that I had anything until 6 months later. I was scared and didnt go to the doctor and they eventually went away in a few months. I'm 25 now and have stayed out of relationships and until now at 25 I have found someone who I really like. I knew that I would be having sex with her, so I went to the doctor first told him about my situation and that I have not seen anything since I was a teenager and he said that I was not at risk to anyone at this point. He checked me out said I was fine and I ask him if was necessary that I told her and he said I didnt need to. I didnt want to because of the lack of education on the subject and it would freak her out, so I followed his advice and had sex with her thinking I am fine. I come on some of the health boards and everyone is talking about I'm at risk for life, but webmd, my doctor and CDC says that the virus clears up on its own after a certain time... it may stat dormant, but i'm not at risk...according to my doctor. Its not that much different than chicken pox, so do i need to tell everyone i had chicken pox. I cant tell her now I had sex with her already and more than once. She is by my doctors stand point not at risk. I dont know what to do, i ask friends and they even said you are fine at this point. I just wanted see what you guys think about this because if yall think I should tell her then I might, but she will hate me for waiting after the fact, but I chose this becuase I thought I was fine and because of the stigma behind HPV. Please comment and tell me what you think
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Either way you are in a lose/lose situation.  YOU cannot let it go and are letting this stress you and cause you anxiety no matter how many people have told you that she is not at risk.  You feel like you are going to lose her if you tell her, and I do not know her, so I cannot say that she would not get angry and leave if you do tell her.  But YOU have to make the choice to let it go or tell her.  Only YOU can make that choice.  Nothing we say will help you with that because frankly, you still don't believe it after people from different sources have told you that she is not at risk.
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so is it necessary to tell her? and am i a bad person for not telling her. To me its no different (from what i understand )than any virus you catch it and it goes dorment forever, but i dont need to tell everyone i had the flu nine years ago. Is it because it is an std and people cant get over that? i just know if its not necessary for me to tell her then i wont becuase if i do tell her then my relationship is over becuase i slept with her already and didnt tell her. And i might be ending something that was over nothing.
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She is nto at risk because the virus has left your body.
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