more help needed.....scared..

[sqengineer69]

Hello again,

I posted on here a few weeks ago, and I want to thank everyone for their help. I have another round of questions and really hope I can get some advice.

Without rehashing too much of my previous post, here are the details:

Had unprotected sex with a prostitute in Singapore
Had burning and whitish discharge 4 days later
Did a ton of research, positive I had either/both chlamydia or gonorrhea
Did a ton of research, and found the CDC recommends specific treatments for these.
Was in China, so I went to a "western" pharmacy and got azithromycin and cefixime without a prescription
Took the recommended doses (1g Azithro for Chlamydia, 400mg Cefixime for the gonorrhea)
Felt better 2 days after.
Got home, it's been 2 weeks, and I still have very mild burning/itching when I urinate, and a tiny amount of discharge that is barely noticible, but it's not worse.
I have scrips for doxycycline I take for malaria when I travel to India, and a few days ago, I started taking 100mg 2x/day just to be sure.

Finally, I'm married, that's why I'm self medicating, and it's stupid I know. The only "fortunate" thing if you can call it that, is my wife and I have sex maybe once every couple months, so its no problem to abstain without raising suspicion.
Next week I will take an HIV test.

Questions:
How long can the burning linger after treatment? Should I be worried I didn't kill it all with the original doses? I know its not a smart idea, but should I continue the doxycycline? I have no side effects. My concern is I have gonorrhea, in which case the doxy probably won't touch it.

Also, does anyone know if the doctor or health department would call my wife if I do have to go to the doc and test positive? What are the chances of them actually doing it?

I thank all of you in advance, and trust me, I have learned my lesson. I just want to be clean and get this over with so I can move on and work hard on my marriage. This has definitely changed me.

[auntiejessi]

You can always self pay for a prescription without using insurance.

Many pharmacies will be able to treat you on site.

Aj

[sqengineer69]

Aj, I can't thank you enough.

As I said, even if they did report it, I would do that before I put her at risk. I just don't want her to suffer because of my stupidity. Easier to abstain until I figure this out....

I guess I could give them my cell phone number and let them know I don't have any sex partners and it will most likely end there, right? I sure hope so.

I will take your recommendation of the STD clinic. I guess if I tested positive for one or the other and it was a definitive diagnosis, I could then self treat with an online pharmacy. It would cost a fortune, but it would better than the alternative.

Thanks so much.

[auntiejessi]

As I said before, it would depend on what you have.  Some states will contact her for chlamydia, others won't.  Most will for gonorrhea.  All will for syphilis and HIV (which I doubt you have).

The doctor won't contact her, but has to report certain infections to the state.  That report will require that someone from public health will call you, and you will then give them your partners names.  I used to do that work, and if you told me that you hadn't had sex with your wife, I would not contact her for chlamydia or gonorrhea.  If you had syphilis or HIV (which your symptoms are not indicative of), I would have to contact her.

Each state does it a bit differently, so I can't guarantee what will happen.  Most important is that you get checked.    Is there an std clinic near you?  At least go there and get tested.  Most don't check IDs.

Aj

[sqengineer69]

Thanks again AJ. I do have to see him, its worse now.

Just a follow up: Like I said before, my wife and I rarely have sex. I have been able to hold off since I got home a month ago, and should be able to abstain with her until I am "clean".

The biggest problem is the horrible guilt I feel over her and the children. This will NEVER happen again. But, she is a very black and white person. I know that if she finds out, the marriage is over. No second chances. I just want to make it work. I'm the dummy here.

Do you know if my doctor or public health department will call her and tell her? I can honestly tell my doctor I have no sex partners right now, at least for a while. But he knows I'm married. Does anyone have any idea? I can't find it anywhere. This sounds stupid, but I would almost rather suffer terrible pain indefinitely and avoidi sex with some lame excuse than tell her. I really don't want my family to suffer for my idiocy. Thanks so much for your time.

[auntiejessi]

Well, since you are still symptomatic, you need to talk to a doctor about this.

Aj

[sqengineer69]

Thanks AJ. No, I am not having sex with her until I get the HIV results and get this cleared up. I'm certain it was an STD as the symptoms showed up soon after and I have never had a UTI.

[auntiejessi]

I'd wonder if this isn't an std, but maybe a prostate problem or urinary tract infection.  The problem with self treating is that it might mess up test results, so if its a UTI, you might not know.

I'd make an appt with a doc and talk to him about it.  It depends on what you have if they tell your wife.  Have you had sex with her since you were with the prostitute?  

Aj