In general, you are absolutely right that oral sex is inherently much safer than genital intercourse with respect to STD and HIV transmission.
But as for HPV, you are asking quite sophisticated quesions, and there are no data to answer them as well as you might like. What is known is that few people present with genital warts if they have not had genital (or anal) intercourse. And despite the increase in oral sex among young people in recent years, visible oral warts are rare, and STD clinics see few patients with genital warts whose only exposure was oral.
These facts suggest, but do not prove, that transmission of warts and other HPV infections from mouth to partners' genitals is relatively uncommon. However, some transmission almost certainly occurs by oral-genital or hand-genital contact--a lot less than genital-genital, but until more sophisticated research is done, we won't know more than we do now.
I agree that you do not have an ethical obligation to discuss your past genital warts or other HPV issues with your oral sex partners. However, others disagree with me on this, and this advice could change with future research.
The study you cite was done by my colleagues at the University of Washington, Drs. Rachel Winer, Laura Koutsky, and others and was published in the New England Journal of Medicine last June (NEJM vol 254, p. 2645). Condoms are "highly effective" against HPV only with highly consistent use: among university student women who used condoms 100% of the time, the reduction in new HPV infections was 70% compared to those who didn't use condoms at all. Women who used condoms 55% to 99% of the time had a 50% reduction in new HPV infections. Below 55% use, there was no effect. The importance of that research was not that condoms are a solution to HPV transmission, because it is unrealistic to expect 100% proper condom use by most sexually active people. The study was significant because it put the lie to those from the religious or political right who had used HPV as the poster child for an argument that condoms "don't work".
It sounds like you have a level headed approach to sex and sexual safety. I hope this helps you stick with the program. Best wishes--
HHH, MD
I know you keep some incredible hours, thanks again for all that you do!