You don't have an infection with herpes simplex virus type 2; a negative HerpeSelect HSV-2 test is reliable. The weakly positive result on the second test is consistent with your having an HSV-1 infection, but not definitive.
If you really feel you need to know, you can ask your health care provider to do the HerpeSelect HSV-1 blood test, but I don't recommend it because a positive result won't mean anything. If it is negative, you will know for sure you have never been infected with either HSV-1 or HSV-2; but it probably will be positive, because more than half the population is positive for HSV-1. In other words, even if positive it will not mean you acquired HSV-1 from your recent sexual exposure.
Varicella (herpes) zoster infection (chickenpox) doesn't affect either of the blood tests you have had.
You need to stop obsessing about this. You don't have genital herpes.
Good luck-- HHH, MD
Based on your symptoms and exposure history, I am pretty sure you don't have genital herpes due to HSV-1, at least not acquired from the exposure you describe. That's why I don't recommend the HerpeSelect HSV-1 blood test; even if positive, it wouldn't necessarily indicate genital infection--most likely would be due to distant (asymptomatic) oral infection, which most people have.
Finally, it probably doesn't matter, because HSV-1 doesn't usually cause recurrent genital herpes. Most people have only 1 or 2 repeat outbreaks, then nothing; 40% have no recurrences at all. Also, asymptomatic shedding is rare, so that genital HSV-1 is rarely transmitted to future sex partners. There are exceptions, but they are rare.
HHH, MD