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[vitaminC85]

Hi, I just had a gay anal sex last night with a guy I met in a gym. In fact, I went over to his place to do it. We did unprotected oral sex to each other. However, he inserted his penis into my anal for like 3-5secs without a condom as I thought he would wear a condom before that but he didn't. Right after that, I told him to wear a condom and he did. Then we continued the sex after that.

I did ejaculate on his body and face and probably got into his mouth as well. But I didn't have any exposure of his *** into my mouth or anal. I do know anal sex plays the highest chances of getting HIV or STD. For this instance, what's the exposure like?

After the sex (probably already too late), I did ask him whether or not he's safe and of course, he told me he's 100% safe and negative as he does HIV test every 3 month. Therefore, I requested to seem report but he couldn't show me as he has lost it. the  But, from the conversation I had with him, he seems like a very open-minded guy in term of sex. He's attached but he's still playing around with other guys. Thus, this has caused me to worry about myself. I also don't know what I've done to myself.

Can anyone please let me know what should I do?

[mjbrown]

Unprotected anal sex is the leading cause of HIV transmission. The duration of your unprotected activity was short, and your partner did not ejaculate in you, so this certainly minimizes the risk. However, the HIV virus can exist in pre-***, and if you had any tears in the lining of your anus (even microscope ones), this can give the virus an opportunity to enter your body. This being said, most people do not lie about their HIV status when asked. Also, the risk of HIV transmission from receiving unprotected anal sex with a known HIV positive partner is in the range of 1 in 1,000. However, it only takes one time to become infected, so protection is always a must. The chances you contracted HIV are low; however, you should be tested 6 weeks from now. You can expect a negative result, but it is important to know for sure. Your unprotected activity may have also exposed you to other STDs (such as gonorrhea, hpv, syphilis, etc). It is a good idea to be routinely screened for STDs when you (or your partner) have multiple sex partners.

All the best..

[vitaminC85]

Thanks a lot for your previous reply and much appreciated.

He seems like a nice and well-planned guy to me as he has his own future business plans. So I would think he is also very concerned in safe sex. I did ask him many questions about safe sex, he told me that he's 100% safe. But he said that if he really got it by having casual gay sex, he doesn't mind as all it's fated. I don't know whether or not I should continue any activity with him.

To looking forward, of course, protected anal sex is a must. but how about unprotected oral sex, will you suggest to avoid that as well?

Can you give me some recommendations? Thanks a lot.