Anxiety over possible herpes symtoms(symptoms)/HIV

Hello,

History...I tested positive for HSV-1 after a partner tested positive for it, however I've never noticed any symptoms besides a pimple every few years (no pain) until now (according to my doctor).

I had unprotected sexBuccal smear
Causes of sexual dysfunction
Child abuse - sexual
Delayed ejaculation
Erection problems
Female sexual dysfunction
Inhibited sexual desire
Orgasmic dysfunction
Puberty and adolescence
Safe sex
Sexual intercourse - painful over 4 months ago. About 2 weeks after I started developing sharp shooting pains in my feet, handsHand or foot spasms
Hand tremor, and groinGroin lump
Groin pain
Groin stretch
Jock itch
Swollen lymph nodes in the groin. Sometimes this was just a dull pain or burning sensation. Shortly after I suspected HIV, ran to my doctor and got tested for HIV, gonorrhea, and syphilis...all came back negative. The symptoms continue today. I've had HIV tests at 2 weeks, 2 and 3 months all which came back negative. I'm still really worried about HIV infection due to what my doctor describes as a herpeticHerpetic stomatitis episode. Of all I've read it's kinda rare for an herpeticHerpetic stomatitis episode to last this long (3+ months) with no sores of any kind. Also I've had what fells like an earEar barotrauma
Ear discharge
Ear emergencies
Ear examination
Ear tube insertion
Ear tube insertion - series infection for as long as the shooting pains in both ears. My doc took a look and said it's probably related to allergies?  

The last few weeks I've been getting really achy joints/slight headaches. The anxiety is killing me, I feel as though I'm coming unglued both mentally and physically.

Thanks in advance,
teahupoo