All I can do is repeat what you already know: auto-inoculation is rare except in initial HSV infections. I have never seen a case of newly acquired
ocularMelanoma of the eye
Ocular lubricant
Tonometry herpes or other auto-inoculation herpes in a person with
recurrentRecurrent cystitis genital herpes. Given how
commonCommon cold genital HSV-2 infections are (25% of the population) and how frequently people touch their genitals (without necessarily washing afterward) and then touch their faces, it is obvious the risk of transmission to the eyes or elsewhere is miniscule.
Common sense says that everyone should wash their hands every time they use the toilet, whether or not they have herpes--every kindergartner knows it. But the occasional lapse probably carries no risk to speak of. I wouldn't lose any sleep over it.
Good luck-- HHH, MD