Sex does not trigger genital herpes outbreaks. It can seem to do so, but many such instances are simply that a sympomatic outbreak was about to start anyway; or sometimes the massaging and rubbing with sex might irritate an otherwise asymptomatic outbreak.
Your symptoms indeed sound more like a UTI, a yeast infection, or perhaps other kinds of anal and gential irritation, and not a herpes outbreak. Probably you have read that UTI and herpes can be easily confused, but it's actually not often so. When someone, particularly a woman, doesn't know she has herpes, she might experience symptoms that involve irritation around the urethra; and sometimes the very first herpes infection causes painful urination and occasionally even urinary urgency. When herpes is eventually diagnosed, it then is understood that what was thought to be a UTI in fact was the first occurence of herpes.
However, most people with symptomatic recurrent genital herpes don't have typical UTI symptoms. Also, they usually experience pretty much the same symptoms every time, with typical blistes or sores in more or less the same spot, give or take a couple of inches. If you think back on your 3 times yearly outbreaks, you'll probably agree that describes your situation. (By the way, the mild nature of your outbreaks is very typical.) Thus, these new symptoms are not likely to be herpes. I cannot say for sure; that takes professional assessment. But your symptoms are more like UTI, yeast, etc.
As to whether you could infect a partner "right now", it is impossible to say. Most herpes transmissions do not occur during overt, symptomatic outbreaks, but during periods of asymptomatic viral shedding. Avoiding sex when you have a known outbreak reduces the transmission risk somewhat, but in the long run the odds are good you will infect a partner no matter how careful you are to avoid sex when you have symptoms. More effective strategies to prevent transmission are consistent condom use and suppressive antiviral therapy.
Which goes to your closing question. If you are having sex with an uninfected partner, or if you are dating and likely to be having sex with more than one person in the coming months or years, you should strongly consider suppressive therapy. Acyclovir in the dose you suggest probably is fine. Acyclovir and valacyclovir are equally effective in suppressing asymptomatic viral shedding, and therefore probably are equally effective in preventing transmission. But only valacyclovir has actually been studied to determine its effectiveness in preventing transmission. It also has the advantage of a single daily dose instead of two. On the other hand, it is more expensive than acyclovir. So it's your choice.
Bottom line: You need to seek personal health care to determine whether you have a UTI, yeast infection, or something else, and to be completely sure you're not having an atypical herpes outbreak. At the same time you can discuss the pros and cons of switching to suppressive antiviral therapy to both prevent transmission and reduce the already low frequency of your recurrent outbreaks.
I hope this helps. Best wishes-- HHH, MD