The risk of herpes from the exposure you describe must be very low. In monogamous couples in which one person has herpes and the other doesn't, who have
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Causes of sexual dysfunction
Child abuse - sexual
Delayed ejaculation
Erection problems
Female sexual dysfunction
Inhibited sexual desire
Orgasmic dysfunction
Puberty and adolescence
Rape
Safe sex an average of 3 times a week, and who do not use
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Female condoms, only about 3% of the uninfected partners acquire herpes per year. Now translate that to your exposure. Probably too low a risk to measure, even if your partner has genital herpes.
The risk of STD transmission from any single exposure varies from one STD to another. If a woman has gonorrhea, her male partner has around a 20% chance of catching it for each episode of unprotected vaginal intercourse. For gonorrhea transmission in the male-to-female direction, the risk is around 50% per unprotected exposure--which is more than twice the risk of female-to-male. The risk for chlamydia transmission in either direction may be somewhat lower, but the difference for male-female vs female-male holds up. It also holds for herpes and HIV. Probably not much difference, though, for HPV infection.
Both men and women in noncommitted relationships should use condoms. I know, you have heard it before--but it's true.
Good luck-- HHH, MD
HHH, MD