A related discussion,
Can Chlamydia produce Trichomonas? was started.
I can't comment further on what health problems might have been present in your partner(s) 16 years ago. But it's probably worth saying that, depending on what else they do sexually, technical virgins can acquire STDs and other sexually related infections like bacterial vaginosis.
And of course I can't advise about your relationship with your former partner. But I can't resist saying we are all very different people than we were 16 years ago, and none of us wants to be judged forever by how we behaved in our teens or early twenties. (A gentleman known as W comes to mind.) Seems to me it's time to get over it.
Good luck-- HHH, MD
Thank you for your reply. The nurse did indeed go and look at the discharge under a microscope and she told me she knew that it wasn't gonorrhea based on that.
You mentioned bacterial vaginosis. If the supposed virgin had bacterial vaginosis could that have caused my NGU? I realize that I have had an STD (As much as I wouuld like to think that I haven't), but what I am wondering is if the supposed virgin had bacterial vaginosis could she have had that without receiving an STD from someone else? Could that have been just some sort of female problem that she was having at the time. She was 16 at the time if that makes a difference.
Part of me is hoping that she just had some type of female problem and that it wasn't because she had received an STD from someone else and then passed it to me. I hope this makes sense.
As far as my second partner goes she was very angry with me for a long time and we didn't speak for many years. I guess she was mad b/c she thought I was blaming her for my problem. We actually both relocated and ended up now living 5 houses apart on the same street!
Our kids go to the same school and she will speak to me, but we don't converse. The supposed virgin is also fine. She is married with two kids.
I really do appreciate the way you give answers to us here at this forum. Most of us are either scared or confused. You have a way of answering without panicking us. For that I thank you very much. I am glad that Medhelp has the STD forum, but I am very thankful that you are the person that is answering our questions.
All that can be said for certain is that you had nongonococcal urethritis (NGU). Gonorrhea is easily diagnosed by examining discharge under the microscope, which undoubtedly was what the nurse (probably actually a nurse practitioner or physician assistant) was doing when out of the exam room for 5 minutes. Roughly 30%-40% of NGU cases are caused by chlamydia, but back in 1988 many people assumed or believed that chlamydia caused almost all cases. Thus the diagnosis you were given. Before the early 1990s, actual testing for chlamydia was uncommon, and in any case no chlamydia test gives results in a few minutes.
Could it have been trichomonas instead of chlamydia? In theory, yes. But trich almost never causes symptoms in men, and research studies have consistently shown that only 1-2% of men with NGU have that disease. So NGU due to chlamydia or other (unknown) causes is by far the best bet. Vaginal odor results from bacterial vaginosis as well as trichomonas and is more common than trich.
Finally, that your second partner was "clean" after an exam by her gynecologist can't be relied on, especially since tests for chlamydia generally weren't easily available (and weren't all that good, i.e. many people with the infection had negative test results). I hope she did well thereafter.
Thanks for your kind comment about the Forum. Best wishes--
HHH, MD