Cold sore and Oral sex- desperatly need advice!

[Troubled13]

Hi there, about 7 months ago I had this tiny pimple on the top of my lip pop up with a white ***** centre. It started to go away when I accidentally scratched the area and thats when my misery began, the lesion stayed on top of my lip, red, raised and crusted for 3 months never retreating. Finally after 3 months it started to go away just in time for me to finally get an appointment with my dermatologist. My dermatologist took one look at me and what was left of the lesion and decided I had a cold sore. He put me on Valtrex to take whenever I feel that dreaded tingle. This did not help my problem  and a month later the lesion was back but this time it only lasted approximately a month which was better than the previous 3 months. I went back to my dermatologist as I continued to get 1 "cold sore" a month. He then put me 500 mg of Valtrex a day. Im still continuing to get one cold sore a month and the lesions were even spreading to other areas of my mouth and face some months. I take 3000 mg of Lysine a day. I take immune system boosters. I wash my hands diligently. I am really taking all precautions possible. The problem is, even when it seems like I dont have a cold sore, the area still tingles every day and never stops being red. I am never really sure if the cold sore is gone or if it has ever really healed. Because of this I have stopped giving my bf oral sex because I am terrified of passing herpes on to him. This has really caused problems in our relationship and I feel horrible about it and I love doing it for him. Im just so scared of taking the risk.

Does this sound like a cold sore to you? Is it normal for cold sores to last 3 months or even return every single month for over 7 months now? When is it safe to give oral sex when you suffer so frequently from cold sores? Please help. Im desperate for answers and my doctor has no patience.

[gracefromHHP]

actually I'm going to disagree with jessy - this doesn't sound like you have cold sores. cold sores will not stick around for 3 months. coming back monthly is also unusual. I recommend finding a different dermatologist for a 2nd opinion including culturing of this. I'd stop the valtrex at this point. when you get a return of symptoms, be seen within 48 hours of their appearance and INSIST on a lesion culture for herpes, preferably pcr. confirm that these are hsv1 related and not something else going on.  

has your partner been tested to know his herpes status too?

lysine doesn't do much at all for herpes.  you are pretty much wasting your money taking it 3x/day.  

grace

[JessyJames2010]

Stress can kill you.

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/3889116

Let me know if you'd like the whole article.

[Troubled13]

Thank you for your quick response! I really appreciate it. I am naturally a very stressed person. I'm working on pulling it together and being less anxious. Thank you again. Have  a great day.

[JessyJames2010]

Hi

It does sound like acold sore to me (oral herpes).   It is normal for them to last quite a while, like months and yes its normal to have them come back.  Are you heavely stressed out about something? or is this stressing you out so much that you are causing its further outbreak?

Oral hereps is not an STD per se, most people get it as a child.  

You can give your bf oral sex once the lesion is gone completely.  
You ever tried flavored condoms in the mean time?  
The loss of giving and recieveing a BJ isn't all that bad, your going to be alright, just abstain from this activity for a while.