You don't say so explicitly, but I gather the blister-like lesions were in or around your genital area. (I couldn't tell that until question no. 4, although the fact that you went to an ObG perhaps is a clue -- but I'm still not certain whether you have been diagnosed with genital or oral herpes due to HSV-1. In answering your questions, I am assuming it is genital.
1) I agree with your ObG. Probably this is a new infection, not recurrence of a previous one. Among people with new genital herpes due to HSV-1, about 40% have no recurrent outbreaks at all, and another 40-50% have only 1-2 recurrences in the next 1-2 years. Only a few have ongoing recurrent outbreaks. This situation is very different than for genital herpes due to HSV-2, in which 90% of people have recurrent outbreaks, with an average of 3-6 outbreaks per year for several years.
2) Almost all cases of genital herpes due to HSV-1 are acquired by receiving oral sex.
3) See my reply to question 1. In addition to infrequent symptomatic outbreaks, asymptomatic shedding of the virus from the genital area is much less common than for genital HSV-2. The risk of future transmission by genital sex is low, but probably not zero. There are no data to be more precise than that. These responses explain my statement that you quoted from another thread, and explain why future transmission by genital sex is low -- which in turn is why it is less necessary to warn future partners than it is for genital HSV-2 infection.
4) Of course you should discuss the situation with your boyfriend. Do so senstively, without a sense of accusation or blame. Undoubtedly he didn't intend to harm you. And in any case, this should not seriously affect your relationship.
5) There is no correlation with your past herpes zoster, and no implications for your immune system.
The bottom line is that if your genital HSV-1 infection is typical, this won't be a big deal. There are few if any implicatios "on my life going forward". For additional "tips, stats and advice", please read the various available websites, like www.cdc.gov/std; www.ashastd.org; and www.metrokc.gov/health/apu/std (where I wrote much of the herpes information myself). Also, expert advice is available on the MedHelp herpes community forum, where the moderators are legitimate herpes clinicians and counselors.
I hope this helps. Best wishes--- HHH, MD
1. If a person has oral HSV 1, are they immuned from genital HSV 1?
2. What sort of things can initiate a HSV 1 outbreak? I'm afraid sex will cause another outbreak, is this unreasonable?
3. I think you answered this above, but for my peace of mind. If I am not having an outbreak, is it safe to assume I am not "shedding" or contagious?
4. And does having HSV1 mean I should always use a condom- aside from the usual reasons people should always use (stds, pregnancy)? I guess what I'm asking is once I get married, should I always use a condom to protect my husband?
Thanks again.
2) Oral HSV-1 can be triggered by other infections (hence the names cold sore, fever blister) and by trauma around the mouth and face, such as surgery; and also by UV light (sunburn). However, most recurrent outbreaks have no obvious trigger at all. Triggers apparently play little role in genital HSV-2 recurrences, which tend to occur randomly (despite folklore about everything from stress to sex to menstruation and other things). Whether these or other triggers have any influence on genital HSV-1 has not been studied and is not known.
3) I did not say "it is safe to assume" you cannot transmit without an outbreak. What we know is that with genital HSV-1, both symptomatic recurrent outbreaks and asymptomatic viral shedding are much less frequent than for genital HSV-2; and that genital-to-genital HSV-1 transmission appears to be uncommon. There probably is always a possibility of transmission without symptoms, but it appears to be rare in most people.
4) Before you worry about strategies to protect your husband, he needs to see a health care provider to be tested for HSV-1 infection. Most likely it will be positive. If he is the source of your infection, his test definitely will be positive; and even if not, half the population has HSV-1. Either way, if his test is positive, you don't need to take any precautions at all to protect him (see no. 1). But even if his test is negative, the risk probably is low (see no. 3); many couples in that situation would not alter their sex lives for fear of catching genital HSV-1. As all the other replies suggest, if you have to get genital herpes, HSV-1 is the type you want; and as you likely will find out in the coming months or years, in the long run it probably will make no important difference in your life -- same for your husband.
Most likely the virus doesn't "go away", but it usually stops causing problems and probably is not frequently transmitted to partners. So for practical purposes, it probably doesn't matter whether or not the virus persists in an inactive state.
The MedHelp herpes community forum is excellent, run by highly experienced nurse-clinician/counselors. You might take a look, if you haven't done so.