Genital Warts Queries and Complications

[spyker84]

Well I got my red spots checked and the doctor says I got genital warts, not herpes as I initially thought.

1) I know this is a somewhat insensitive question but is it worse to have herpes or genital warts? (out of curiosity) I mean 'worse' in terms of the medical/health as well as the social aspects. (for both male and female cases).


I also have some concerns.

2) This basically means, assuming we're all good human beings here, that I have to tell every potential future sexual partner at all instsances that I have genital warts? (bit of a mood killer).

3) I hear genital warts for women are a lot more dangerous than for men. So say I find the woman I want to spend the rest of my life with and we want to have a baby. Does this mean that basically she's going to have to risk getting a potential life threatening genital warts for the sake of getting pregnant? Is there a solution to this? Any way around it at all?

4) I'm terribly depressed about this (as I guess anyone would be) and I was wondering if there's a way I could get in contact with anyone (online) who has HPV/warts/herpes etc, from these forums or anywhere else on the net. Kind of just as a support thing (yes I know there are lots of people with worse things than me but it would still be reassuring).

I don't mean every second of the time we'd be talkin like "oMgz We gOtz Da HeRpeeZ/wArtz wHaT aRe We gOnA Do!!11@2!". I mean just general talking with someone about normal things but at the back of the mind its nice to know that the person knows your situation, and vice versa.

If anyone's interested it would be great.

(Am I allowed to state my email/msn/yahoo messenger info here in this thread? Or are there rules about it.)


Anyway,
I appreciate any responses.


ta,
oMgz KeN

[BethanySublime]

i'll be more than happy to be your wart buddy lol!!  but i only have internet at work so i don't have any messengers, i'd have to use e-mail.  but you sound exactly like i did when i first got diagnosed.

and to answer your question, warts are better.  they are nothing more than a cosmetic concern, and in most cases they go away, whereas herpes are much more uncomfortable and stay with you for the rest of your life.

as a male, since there aren't any actual HPV tests for you, it would be the most responsible thing to tell every future partner that you HAD warts, but more than likely within 1-2 years the HPV will be gone from your system.  but since there are no tests for men, you can't be 100% sure, even after the warts go away.  so yes, that would be best, but after maybe 4 years just to be safe you're PROBABLY good (but i still think it would be best to tell everyone that you had them and were treated for them and that it's almost definitely gone by now - in the future that is) now i'm starting to talk in circles lol.  on to the next question.

the kind of genital warts that you for sure have (you never know if you're carrying another strain & just dont' have symptoms) are not dangerous for women.  but there is another strain of genital warts that grow on the cervix, which can be dangerous.  but if that were to happen there is still treatment and it likely wouldn't turn into anything dangerous.  warts don't cause cervical cancer, that's yet another strain of HPV (there are hundreds).  genital warts are not life-threatening in any way, except in rare cases when a woman gives birth while having warts, they can rarely cause problems with the baby's throat and respiratory system, but the doctors would probably do a c-section to avoid this so genital warts are still not a threat.  plus almost all cases are cleared up within 1-2 years - it's almost never a life-long disease.

you feel pretty depressed now, but when you're first diagnosed is the most grim time.  pretty soon you'll realize that it's not as horrible as it first seemed, and you can explore treatment options (read my post from 2 days ago titled "so happy! Genital warts success/advice")  but yeah i know exactly how you feel.  i was there only a month or two ago but now i feel a lot better about the situation, for reasons that we'd end up discussing through e-mail rather than this forum.  but yeah let me know if you want my e-mail address.  i don't think we're allowed to give them out in here but i'm sure we could get away with it lol

best wishes!!

Bethany

[BethanySublime]

i just read your original post and i don't think you got the warts from the girl you thought you got the herpes from.  they usually take a lot longer than that to start showing.

BUT that's one of the joys of having warts is you'll spend forever trying to "process of elimination" it and figure out who gave you the damn things but you never really know.

well, at least in my case.  which i was a stupid promiscuous little girl for a summer and so i'll never know :(

[spyker84]

hey thanks for your reply bethany!

ok i'll give my email out here but i hope to death i don't get banned for it or anything :(

mine's ***@****

hope to talk to you soon



and of course anyone else from here can add me too!