Guilt and fear.

[xyzabc123987]

Hi Doctor,
My friend took me to a massage parlor last weekend.
1. The massage girl did a hand job to me.
She did lick the penis shaft, I'm completely aware that she DID NOT touch the head of the penis.
2. She also licked my nipples.
3. I sucked her breasts for very few seconds. From her right breast, it seems that 3-4 drops of milk (not sure if it was milk) came into my mouth.
I do dental flossing daily. A week or 10 DAYS BEFORE this incident , one of my gums bleeded  during flossing, and the bleeding stopped immediately after my mouth wash.
4. Should I go for testing?
I DID NOT do anything apart from these things.
I have gone through lot of internet sites, and found out that breast milk carries HIV viruses, which is harmful for child. For adults, it is never documented as infectious.
I'm very much worried about HIV and STD with these things, in particular about my 1 and 3 instances. I have lost sleep.
I'm newly married, and I know I have done a terrible mistake in my life. I love my wife very much. Don't know how can I forgive myself.

Please help me doctor!

Thanks.

[Edward W Hook, MD]

Welcome to our Forum.  This answer will be brief because there is not much to say.  NONE of the activities you describe (having your penis shaft licked, sucking on your partner's nipples, or receipt of masturbation) are associated with any meaningful risk for HIV or any other STD.  That your gums may have bled or that you swallowed secretions from her breast makes no difference whatsoever.  There is no reason for concern and no need for testing.

It is clear from the way your question is written however that you feel quite guilty about this.  I suggest you put your energy into working through your guilt, perhaps with the need of a counselor if need be, rather than worrying about any non-existent risk associated with the events you have described.  Take care. EWH

[Edward W Hook, MD]

You are correct.

This is my last reply.  EWH

[xyzabc123987]

Doctor,

So, I understand even touching genital to genital (without penetration) is not an issue for STD.

I'm completely safe from medical point of view.
I don't know how to say thanks to you. Thank you very very much, Doctor.
I have learnt a lesson in my Life. I Love my wife very much. I will take care of her. Never ever do such mistake, what so ever.
I feel like I have learnt what is LIFE!
Please acknowledge to this post.

Thanks once again, Doctor!

[Edward W Hook, MD]

STDs are not transmited by masturbation (hand jobs) even when a person has touched their own genitals before touching their partner. The say is true of touching/rubbing genitals without penetration.  No risk.  From an STD perspective none of the activites you describe involve any risk for infection.  EWH

[xyzabc123987]

Doctor,
Out of anxiety I'm asking this question. Please help me.
I remember, she was busy doing a hand job to me, she never took the hand off. When she laid on me, in case, if her genital touched my genital, is there any risk for STD? I don't think it touched, because I never felt that sense. and also I don't know whether she took her panty off during this instance.
I have lost sleep. From your last answers, I'm getting back to my life.
I see no symptoms, apart from those pimples in my armpit. Its been 7 days now.
This will be my last doubt.
Thanks Doctor!

[Edward W Hook, MD]

The occurrence of the pimples you describe is coincidence and nothing more.  I would nto be concerned. This is unrelated to the activities you have described.  EWH

[xyzabc123987]

Thank you very much, Doctor. I'm short of words to express my thanks to you.
Just one question, Doctor.
But I see a pimple kind of 4 small dots in left armpit.
Before the incident also, I usually get 1 pimple, but never got 4.

A lesson learnt in Life. Hope and will be better in my Life in every sense...

Thanks Doctor!