HELLO every one .i am desperately in need of help.Four months ago i had an encounter with a girl in which i masterbated her(fingered her).about two seconds after i took my finger out of her i touch my penis.I got a HIV test at six weeks AFTER THE ENCOUNTER which came back negative. SHOULD I GET ANOTHER TEST?
Hi All,
I have been reading the archive today and I think it does a world of good. I am in a dilemma like so many people here and I just wish I didnt visit the red light in amsterdam.
I had protected oral sex (2 mins) with the prostitute and protected vaginal sex after that (3 to 4 mins). I couldnt ejaculate so I used my hands to masturbate. After some time, I did a very stupid thing, I removed the condom and then continued to masturbate with the same hand which I had used earlier.
I am afraid that the vaginal fluid which might be stuck on the condom from the vagina, while I masturbated might have got onto my hand and then infected me after I removed the condom and masturbated. Also, I tried inserting my finger before the vaginal sex and she didnt allow me to do that, i just inserted once, its the same hand I used to masturbate.
I also tried to kiss her and she didnt allow me to. Today is just 1 day after the incident. Should I go for tests tomorrow itself once, 4 weeks later once more and 12 weeks for the final time?
Can you please help me with this, I am getting extremely anxious. I did this yesterday for the first time other than my girl friend and feeling really guilty about it. I hope to get rid of the fear and forgive myself but more than that its the HIV infection which is bothering me a lot.
ya sometimes I am fine with everything but then I look at the symptoms which I know you are told not to do..but how could you not..as for the guilt..at the time this happened I was in a very serious relationship 3 years in...I did this act because of alcohol and drugs(marijuana)which I terribly regret..I told my girlfriend.. she took it very hard but we pulled through I went through all the appropriate tests before any contact and now that we are having sex I am still scared that she could contract something..this is another reason why I am so anxiety stricken.
If you are still concerned even though your tests confirm absolutely you are not infected with HIV maybe you should consider dealing with the anxiety and guilt you are having as the problem. Anxiety at the level you are experiencing can be debilitating as you know. There are meds to help with it. Consult your doctor.
Thank you so much for your prompt answer doctor..just for the record I did have the nodes checked and my doctor said that the ones in my neck were swollen but nothing to worry about that it is just a cold, sore throat, etc. I was worried becasue I had no sore throat or anything which to me meant it had to be something else causing it. As for the one in my groin..I asked my GP and a urologist about it and he said once again not to worry..I was worried with this incident because he looked very fast and not even at the one I was showing him..but I guess if it was really swollen then he would have caught it. I will take your advice, my other doctors advice, and of the people on this forum and try to relax. I just hope all is well for me and everyone else on this forum. I will pray for them!
Thanks Johnny I love to hear reassurance like that..I just can't look past the swollen lymph node fact..I have read and found out that lymph nodes should be deep in the body and if you can feel them in the groin or neck there is an infection..well that is what i'm trying to find..and I also can't look past the whole 6 month 3 month battle...I just cant wait until the 6 month test..I just havent been the same person since all this happened. my doctors tell me to see a psychologists..let me tell you All I need is for the nodes to go away and get my positive assurance of my negative HIV statuts then i'll definately be fine. I need to get to the bottom of what is going on. If DOC HHH reads this I also wanted to know if feeling groin lymph nodes is common or does it HAVe to mean that there is an infetion, virus, etc. present!?
A negative HIV test at 3 months rules out HIV. The doc will have more to tell about other STDs.
Stop focusing on symptoms and focus instead on the test results. Also, don't start obsessing over the odds of infection based on one act of unprotected sex; the statistics are irrelevant because you came back neg. at 3 months.
J
I'll go straight to your specific questions.
1) No, there is no chance HIV explains your symptoms. You can rely completely on the negative test result at 3 months.
2. Your symptoms sound more anxiety-related than inflammatory; and in view of the negative test results, the chance you have an HIV is about zero. If you have any STD, it isn't causing the symptoms you describe.
3. Persons' own evaluation of their own lymph node size and tenderness is extremely unreliable. Unless/until your health care provider confirms a lymph node abnormality, I assume your nodes are normal. Even if swollen, there are many possible causes, most of which are much more common than HIV. Anyway, your HIV test results prove HIV is not the cause.
4. There is no STD that causes or influences a receding hairline. Your heredity is at work, nothing else.
5. As I said above, those symptoms do not suggest HIV, and are most consistent with anxiety. Follow up with your own health care provider if they persist. But dont' lose sleep about any possibility of HIV or other STD as the explanation.
Best wishes-- HHH, MD