HIV I'm Paranoid sick and need help

[theroar]

I am a 22 white heterosexual male. I just spent about 6 months of my life paranoid that I had HIV. Fortunatly after waiting 6 months of hell, I got tested and the results were negative. Life was great. However,  Just last week I had my first sexual experience since living my life in a dark paranoid hole. This time I wore a condom. But 2 nights before my experience I shaved my pubic region above my penis. After a night of protected sex, (which only lasted 10 minutes)  I woke up in the morning and noticed a small ingrown hair/ razor burn about 3 inches above my penis in my pubic region. I know that the small redish bump was from shaving two nights early.  However, Once I noticed the bump my paranoia of hiv began to sink in and the worry of HIV has entered my life once again. Is razor burn or an ingrown hair an open wound? Additioanlly since we only had sex in the missionary position, I'm pretty sure my bump didn't come in contact with her vaginal secretions,  I somewhat remember being upset that I wasn't thrusting my entire penis into her, which probably means my pelvic pubic area didn 't come in contact with her vaginal secretions. But if her vaginal secretions did drip onto my razo burn/ingrown hair, do you think I'm at risk of hiv? I don't know her HIV status nor do I remember her name, but I do know that we only had sex in the missionary position. I have been seeking psychological help because the fear of HIV has become a habit. So as a whole, is an ingrown hair and open wound, is razor burn an open wound, am I at risk of getting HIV if her vaginal secretions came into contact? Thank you for all your help, your a godsend for helping people like me.

[H. Hunter Handsfield, M.D.]

You obviously are aware of your central health problem, which isn't HIV or your sexual behavior.  I can do nothing more than tell you that the chance of HIV infection from the exposure you describe, shaving or not, sexual position or not, vaginal secretions getting into shaved area or not, is close to zero.

I can offer only 2 suggestons.  First, call your partner and ask if she is HIV infected; she probably isn't (and will probably tell you the truth).  Second, follow through with your mental health provider, which you undoubtedly realize you need to do anyway.

Good luck--  HHH, MD

[theroar]

Do you think I have to wait another 3 months to get tested. Is an ingrown hair like a herpe, because I know people with herpes are more likely to get hiv. But as a Whole I wore a condom and did what i thought was right, but I'm worried her secretions could have come into contact with my razor burn/ ingrown hair.

[H. Hunter Handsfield, M.D.]

You don't need to be retested at all.  If you're going to be sexually active until/unless you are in a permanent, mutually committed relationship, consider having an HIV test once a year.  Do not get tested after every new partner, which will only reinforce your anxiety.  (I suspect your mental health provider will agree with this, but if not, follow his/her advice, not mine.)

Feel free to continue to post comments if you wish; you might get helpful information from other forum participants.  But I'm not going to reply further.

HHH, MD