There are no data to answer your questions with precision. The 1 in 1000 risk applies to most men having sex with infected women, but no information is availabe on the influence of duration of intercourse, variable risk with or without ejaculation, etc. And the actual risk can often be much higher or much lower than 1 in 1000, depending on many factors that usually are not known: duration/stage of infection, herpes in either partner, other STDs, circumcision status, use of antiviral therapy by the infected person, and others.
Best wishes-- HHH, MD
Odds for protected vaginal are zero. HIV will not pass through a latex condom.