1) Symptoms never are a particularly useful indicator of early HIV infection, especially when the risk of infection is low to start with. Although some of your symptoms are consistent with HIV, the identical symptoms are hundreds of times more likely due to other things that are much more common than HIV, such as a garden variety respiratory virus. Also, in people with symptomatic primary HIV infection, high fever is almost always present; its absence is strong evidence your other symptoms are not due to HIV. Self-assessment of posssible lymph node enlargement is totally unreliable. Thus, my assessment of your HIV risk is completely unrelated to the symptoms you describe, and comes down to the level of risk from the exposure you describe. Even if your Indonesia partner had HIV, the likelihood you caught it was less than 1 chance in 1000. If you turn out to have HIV, I would suspect you caught it some other time.
2) Home Access uses standard HIV antibody testing. False positive results are not an issue. About 80-90% of infected people develop positive tests within 4 weeks. If you remain anxious despite my reassurance, you might want to get tested again 6-12 weeks after exposure. (Search the STD Forum threads for "time to positive HIV test" for extended discussions of when to be tested, how the odds work out in low-risk situations like yours, and so on.)
Best wishes-- HHH, MD
HHH, MD
You can search the web to find out the time for various generation tests to detect HIV. In general, a fourth generation test will detect HIV about a week earlier than a third generation test (by detecting the P24 antigen) and a third generation test will detect HIV antibodies about a week earlier than a first generation test. A second generation test (such as used by LabCorp) will detect HIV antobodies somewhere between the first the third generation tests.