HPV prevention/what are my odds

If you have had more than 3-4 sexBuccal smear
Causes of sexual dysfunction
Child abuse - sexual
Delayed ejaculation
Erection problems
Female sexual dysfunction
Inhibited sexual desire
Orgasmic dysfunction
Puberty and adolescence
Safe sex
Sexual intercourse - painful partners in your lifetime, you probably in fact have been infected with HPV.  In other words, everybody gets it, and if you are a typically sexually active single man, you almost certainly will be reexposed to HPV again and again until you settle into a lifelong, mutually mongamous relationship.  In addition, the HPV types that cause pap smear abnormalities cause no symptoms in men and don't lead to any serious condition (in theory, cancer of the penis--but that is an extremely rare disease that for practical purposes can be disregarded).  For these reasons, your partner did nothing wrong in not telling you about her HPV infection; in the absence of overt genital warts, my routine advice to HPV-infected persons is that they can inform their partners if they wish, but there is no ethical or practical obligation to do so.

It is possible that you reduced your chance of catching a new HPV infection by washing after sex, but no guarantee--but for all the reasons implied above, it doesn't much matter anyway.  It is true that no test is available to know whether or not you are infected with HPV, either from this particular partner or another.

My point is to educate you and other viewers, not to belittle your concerns or to appear insensitive.  Getting HPV is, for practical purposes, a normal aspect of human sexuality; and far too much of it has been made in popular magazines, on the internet, and so on.  Women have a genuine concern, because of the real (but very low) risk of future cancer, but even they shouldn't lose as much sleep over this infection as many people do.

Relax and don't worry about it.  For further information, go to the link at the top of this form (STD summaries and facts) and read the article on HPV.

Good luck--   HHH, MD