You're just re-asking the same questions with different words. Whether the virus is only on the cervix or also in the vaginal wall isn't knowable and probably makes no difference in transmission risk. Transmission probably is increased when the virus is "massaged" into the skin, but that can occur whether the virus is in an infected person's secretions, tissues, or both.
100% consistent condom use cuts down HPV transmission from male to female by around 70%. There are no data on the protection level for female to male transmission, but presumably it is about the same.
Sorry, one more question on location/transmission of the virus. Does the virus exist only on the cervix OR also on the viginal wall? I thought HPV is transmitted by skin to skin contact. But from your answer, it sounded like the transmission is Skin to fluid contact? So, it sounded like that as long as the fluid contains the virus and if the skin comes in contact with the fluid, then there is a chance of transmission. Is this correct? Do you know by any chance how much risk the condom can cut down on transmission? Thanks again for all your help.
thank you very much for your feedback.
Most experts would disagree with your doctor and the hotline. Five years ago that might not have been so clear, so maybe today the hotline advice would be different. Presumably the greatest concentration of HPV is at your cervix, but it is likely that HPV would also be in any vaginal secretions that come from the cervix or are in contact with it. Most likely HPV is transmissible whenever it can be detected by DNA testing.
That said, condoms reduce the chance of transmission. You are right to discuss this with your new partner, and with or without condoms, he should understand there is a risk of infection. However, that may not matter. All sexually active peole get infected somewhere along the line; and the most common types are the high risk ones, like you probably have. But even "high risk" usually never causes serious disease; men almost always are asymptomatic; and in any case, since presumably he has been sexually active, he might have already been infected with the same type you have--and therefore is immune to catching it again.
There are no guarantees in this. However, HPV is not a serious enough condition that it should ever be allowed to interfere with romance, coutrship, or a potentially rewarding sexual relationship.
When you discuss it with him, don't play the "woe is me" game. You just have an impersonal virus, one that everybody gets. Yours happens to have been diagnosed, but most cases are not.
Best wishes. I hope it works out for you. HHH, MD