After browsing through the various posts here and on the Ask A Doctor STD forum, I am saddened by the number of people who are suffering from irrational anxiety with regards to herpes.
I have both HSV 1&2, - lip sores since my youth, and twenty years on, the genital variety. Both infections now seem dormant, and I have never taken pharmaceutical suppressive meds for either.
Receiving the gift of HSV-2 made me realise that there's really no difference between the two strains, - apart from in the way people perceive them.
I'm slightly appalled to read comments by doctors saying that oral hsv is not an STD. Surely, a patient who has contracted GHSV via oral sex would not agree ? Isn't kissing part of the sexual ritual ? With cold sores being so common and oral sex being so common, - what difference does it make ?
Of course, like all sufferers, I worry about transmitting the virus to partners, - but if I look on the bright side, - I no longer have to worry about becoming infected myself! If I get an outbreak, I much prefer the genital variety, which nobody can see, as opposed to the lip kind, which is akin to having " I have herpes ! " written all over my face !
My partner rejected me because of my genital condition, - he is unable to overcome his fear. He no longer finds me attractive, and believes I tried to "trap" him. Conveniently, he now only remembers me talking about my lip sores, - which is surprising, because I definitely spoke to him about both at the beginning of our year-long relationship.
Twenty years ago, without the support of sites such as this, and without recent research into transmission by shedding, my partner would only have had his doctor's word to go on.
Do public forums such as these actually increase the fear and stigma surrounding what is a common, and, in most cases, medically unimportant condition ?