Help with symptoms

I have read this forum for weeks and can't find anything with these symptoms.  I had an encounter with a pro after 8 years of marriage.  I'm disgusted with myself.  Had protected oral and vaginal sex.  6 weeks after the encounter I felt a strange feeling in my penis and the head becam a little sensitive.  It has gotten worse over the last 2 months.  The left side under the head feels like its being pinched.  My rectum is sore. and sometimes I can a dull pain deep in my butt cheeks.  Clothes seem to irratate it and so does heat.  I have been tested for gon. and Chlymidia both were negative.  I am waiting on results for HIV Herpes and Hep.  There has been no discharge from my penis and it does not hurt to urinate.  Doc gave me levaquin  for 2 weeks for UTI and Ofloxin for another 2 weeks when returned.  My penis feels dry sometimes and as if needles are pricking at the head.  Like it has a very tight knot in the tube next to the urethra.  But all of these symptoms come and go and seem to be exagerated by clothing, sitting for long periods of time and heat.  No lesions or sores anywhere.

I had warts in 1991 and was sucsessful at getting rid of them.  

1. Could this be signs of Herpes?  From what I have read herpes doesn't stay around this long.

2.  Could HPV be causing this?  The doctor I went to in 1991 told me "sometimes you can get rid of warts"  He never mentioned HPV.  I learned about it from this forum and the internet.

3.  These symptoms are sometimes unbearable.  Could I be causing these by worrying?

[H. Hunter Handsfield, M.D.]

Simply put, no STD causes the symptoms you describe.  Further, you have seen health care providers who found nothing wrong, had several negative STD tests, and had treatment that would have eradicated any infection that might have been responsible.  To your specific questions:

1) Herpes does not cause the symptoms you describe.  2) Neither does HPV.  3) I have said many times that when a person suspects his/her own symptoms are due to anxiety or other emotion, they usually are right.

You did not catch any infection from the encounter you describe.  Your problem is your guilt over the event, not an infection.  Do not worry about your health or your wife's.  Move on, or seek counseling if you cannot.

Good luck--  HHH, MD

PS:  Every once in a while I have occasion to re-post a message I first used several months ago, in response to a question much like yours.  Here it is again.

"It is a fact of life that human beings get various aches and pains. Out of the blue there is knee pain, a headache, abdominal discomfort, a stich in the side, tingling down a leg. Sometimes such problems are continuing or recurrent, yet no specific cause ever is found and clearly no important infection or disease is present.

Why should the genital area be any different? Not every symptom means disease. People with such symptoms of course should see a health care provider. But when a comprehensive evaluation comes up with no good explanation, and if the symptoms persist after treatment of the potential infectious causes, it is wrong to assume a serious health problem. Just as some people have to learn to live with unexplained but benign headaches or abdominal pain, others have to live with unexplained genital symptoms.

Our genitals have a special place in our psyches, and unexplained discomfort can be harder to ignore than a painful joint or even a headache. But the principle holds. It's fine to look for harmless things that might help control symptoms. But potentially harmful treatments (e.g., repeated high doses of antibiotics, potent pain controllers) make no sense, and doctor-shopping (or internet shopping) for different answers is fruitless."

[havenoidea]

Thank you for your quick response.  If I could elborate just a little on my symptoms.  I guess what scares me the most is sometimes the pinching pain in my penis is extreme.  And the burning in my rectum is really agrivated by my clothing.  It almost makes me feel sick sometimes.  Could my guilt make this seem so real?  The knot in the tube on the left side of my penis, under the head, is sore and is very sensitive.  Could this be caused by my mind?