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Herpes - need advice

Met with CSW. we kissed a bit. she gave me unprotected oral sex twice. I did the same back to her one time for 5 mins. She had some raised white bumps on her pelvis above her vagina. Had sex twice.. with condom both times and it did not break. Her on top once. Cleaned up with wipes, may have had alcohol in them  - not sure. Had shower afterwards.

One day later had lot of redness and some tenderness around my anus.no other symptoms. 5 days after started to see what looked like cold sores on my face and on my chin which look like the white bumps but much smaller, some redness too and smaller clusters of lesions just above both corners of my mouth above the lip. Also started to feel tingling, itching, irritation/pain in groin area - around base of penis, inside of legs and on the pelvic area above my penis. Visited primary doc 7 days after encounter. Quick exam ,very quick look at groin area. Gave me Valacyclovir 500mg 3 times a day for 10 days with 2 refills.

Started valacyclovir.  Very uncomfortable in groin area. Tingling and stinging pain in my groin area, electric shock feeling on inner thighs, above average urge and frequency of urination and in past 4 days emergence of small cluster of bumps at base of penis and larger white bumps on pelvic area above penis - maybe 5 all over. Just flat and slightly raised...no fluid..largest is about size of large nail head. Now 12 days afterwards.

Had HPV and genital warts on scrotum 10 years ago. Also had cold sores. Not sure if relevant...

I am a married man who does not want to lose his wife or pass it to her. I know..should have thought of that before.. Not had any physical contact with my wife - told her about cold sores. Am hyper anxious, poor appetite and losing weight, having to use Ambien to get to sleep at night.Tortured.. Questions (1) Do you recommend a HSV PCR test? Need to truly know what I have here (2) Recommend suppressive therapy if + ve? (3) How to stop freaking out..?
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300980 tn?1194929400
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Welcome to the Forum.  Your doctor did not do you any favors by starting you on valacyclovir without taking a culture or PCR test- this just confuses things.

You need to have the lesions in your groin and on your face evaluated by a trained clinician who is willing and able to make a diagnosis, not just through some medication at it.  It would be most unusual for the lesions on your face and groin to both be HSV- the infection very, very rarely presents at two locations at one, the separation of the sequence of events would not be characteristic of HSV, and the lesions you describe do not sound typical of HSV.  Finally for you to develop HSV while taking valacyclovir would be most unusual.  All of this makes HSV quite unlikely and warrants efforts to prove that the virus is present using culture or, preferably, PCR before you assume that any of this is HSV.

I am concerned that some of the symptoms you are describing may be a manifestation of anxiety/guilt over the exposure you have described as well.  

My strong and sincere advice is to see a dermatologist or STD specialist who can help you sort this out.  EWH
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300980 tn?1194929400
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This is not suggestive of herpes.  I recommended a dermatologist to you earlier.  That is still my recommendation.  EWH
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Now 3 weeks since encounter with CSW and this has taken a BAD turn. Met with urologist  7 days ago and he said the small bumps were contact dermatitis and prescribed a anti-fungal /  corticosteroid cream for my face and my groin area. Been using that but things are going from bad to worse. I have quite obvious spots / lesions (warts) on my chin / face, what feel like mouth ulcers, stinging / nerve pain and small white bumps in my pelvic / groin area right above my penis and have some sensitivity (feels like icy pain) down my left leg. I thought the warts could not be in both places?

I am thinking that I need to see a dermatologist? The urologist said he could not be sure of what he saw on my face last time he saw me (wasn't so pronounced then).

I feel like I am doomed. There is no way I am going to be able to get myself out of this without admitting what I have done. I am going to lose everything due to an impulsive, selfish, indulgent mistake.
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300980 tn?1194929400
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Thanks for the follow up.  EWH
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Thanks for the re-assurance. That helped calm my nerves. Had appt today with Urologist who did urine analysis and full exam. Said none of the symptoms / lesions looked like any case of HSV he had ever seen. Thought the white bumps were contact dermatitis / mild fungal infection and prescribed cream.
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