There are two problems here, and they probably are not related to one another.
First, it seems clear you have had recurrent folliculitis. Herpes rarely occurs in hairy areas, and your description sounds quite typical for folliculitis.
The second problem is your apparent HSV-2 infection, based on the blood test. If indeed you have HSV-2, it may not be not the cause of the recurrent outbreaks you describe. As I said above, the occurrence in the pubic area is atypical for herpes. On the other hand, the repeated recurrence in more or less the same spot is typical for herpes and not for folliculitis.
The first thing to do is confirm the blood test. If you have the numerical result of your test, I can help figure out whether or not it is truly positive. If it's in the borderline range, you may not have it; repeat or confirmatory testing usually can sort it out. In addition, it would be a good idea for your girlfriend to be tested. The result might help sort out your situation (especially if positive), and it also will guide what needs to be done to protect her, if you have it and she doesn't.
In the meantime, don't panic. Nobody wants genital herpes, but it's generally not such a big deal. Let me know the details of your test result and then we'll go on. In the meantime, take a look at
http://www.medhelp.org/posts/show/593272 to see why it's important to know more about your test result.
Regards--- HHH, MD
Although atypical, a lower abdomen site is not peculiar. There is no way to predict exactly where recurrent outbreaks will occur or why they occur in atypical places in some persons. Recurrent genital herpes can occur anywhere in the "boxer shorts" distribution, i.e. from lower waste to upper thighs. Still, to be certain the outbreaks you describe indeed are herpes, you should see a provider immediately (within 1-2 days of onset) for your next episode. If seen early, the lesions can be tested for HSV; if positive, it will nail down the diagnosis for sure.
It is difficult to predict whether you have asymptomatic viral shedding -- i.e., outbreaks without symptoms -- that involve the penis. Maybe not, which might partly explain why your former long term partner never was infected. However, you can't be sure it isn't happening, so you will be obligated to tell your current and future partner(s) about the risk.
Herpes rarely need be a significant impediment to sexual activity and a completely satisfying sexual and romantic life. Among other things, avoiding sex when having an outbreak; using condoms consistently; and taking suppressive anti-herpes therapy all are effective in preventing transmission. If all three of those approaches are used together, the likelihood of transmission to a partner probably is very low. Still, your partners need to be informed. (BTW, don't start on suppressive antiviral therapy until you have another outbreak, if you want it to be tested to confirm the diagnosis.)
As to when and were you were infected, you may never know. All that can be said is it was sometime before you started having the recurrent outbreaks (assuming they are confirmed as herpes).
Lots of information about these aspects of herpes is available on the MedHelp herpes community forum. There also are several excellent websites. The latter include the American Social Health Association, the nation's premier private nonprofit STD prevention organization (www.ashastd.org) (full disclosure: Dr. Hook and I are on ASHA's Board of Directors); CDC (www.cdc.gov/std); and the Wesover Heights Clinic of Portland, OR (www.westoverheights.com).
So no panicking, please. A cool, sober approach is what you need. Your world isn't coming to an end, either sexually or any other way. What has changed is not the fact that you have herpes, just you knowledge of it. It shouldn't turn into a significantly bigger deal now than it was a week ago.
Thanks for your kind words. In that spirit, don't view these comments as uncaring, even if blunt. Call it tough love. You need to accept the realit and move on, not grasp at straws.
Your partner needs to be tested for HSV-2. If her test is positive, it won't tell whether you infected her, or vice versa, or neither one. (Since 20% of the US population has HSV-2, you could both be infected independently.) That would be good news, in a way: since people are immune to new infection with the same HSV type, there would be no risk of tranmission between you.
More likely, her test will be negative. If so, the two of you can make decisions together about how important it is for her to avoid transmission and how to go about it together, i.e. what mix of condoms, anti-herpes suppressive therapy, and avoidance of sex during outbreaks works best for you. This should be a couple's choice, not something for you to decide on your own.
This thread has gone beyond the norm for detailed follow-up advice. I'm going to suggest that you do the reading suggested above (see the websites I suggested 2/18) and hold off on further discussion unless you want to return to let me know your partner's HSV-2 test result. Also, please follow my advice above about confirming that your "folliculitis" really is herpes, before you consider starting any anti-herpes therapy.
You also can get additional advice on the herpes community forum. In addition, two days ago MedHelp added a separate, professionally moderated Herpes Forum. But don't pay to start a new question there, at least not yet. I will ask the moderator, Terri Warren, to scan this thread. She or I will let you know if she has anything to add.
A couple of 30 minute live conversations with a knowledgeable provider and/or counselor will cover what would take 10 rounds here. If you ask around, you probably can find a herpes knowledgeable doctor in your area. You also can phone the American Social Health Association and speak personally with a knowledgeable counselor; and ASHA also offers some excellent written materials. Go to www.ashastd.org. (Disclosure: Dr. Hook and I are on ASHA's board of directors.) Finally, excellent information, and feedback from others with herpes, is available at MedHelp's herpes community forum, at no cost.
Good luck.