When the condom broke your sexual encounter became unprotected. Thus it was appropriate for you to get checked for STDs including HIV. You can have faith in your negative test results - you did not get gonorrhea, chlamydia or HIV from the exposure you describe.
The recurring oral lesions you report are unlikely to be herpes. You did not mention oral sexual contact and HSV is transmitted by direct contact, thus there is no reason to assume that they might be herpes. In addition the location of the sores you mention are more consistent with canker sores than herpes.
The other dermatological findings you describe do not sound like herpes from your description either. The lesion on your hand has persisted and that is uncharacteristic of herpes, as is your description. Similarly, the genital (penile) finding you describe sound in no way like herpes or HPV. Sometimes after an exposure that, in retrospect, one wishes they had not had, persons tend to examine themselves and be far more attuned to genital skin changes and sensations than in periods when they are not concerned. This in turns leads to noticing what turn out to be normal findings and sensations that might have been not noticed or ignored at other times. Perhaps this was a contributor to your situation. My advice would be to not worry about them. If that is not possible, I would suggest you see a health care professional, preferably a dermatologist, for their opinion. I predict he/she will agree with me. EWH
When i checked online i see all of these refer to hpv or herpes
what do you recommend for me ?
so i am now very concerned about it.
it doesn't look normal.
do you think that i am seeing them psychologically. or are they real ?
i am planning to go dermatologist today. this is depressing me so much.
thank you
Thank you again for all your help.