You can assume your partner was infectious when you had sex the night before noticing your partner's lesion. But apparently you used a condom, and that provides a high degree of protection. Even without a condom, you wouldn't necessarily be infected; not all exposures result in transmission even when an overt lesion is present. If you haven't had symptoms over the next 2 months, probably you were not infected. Anyway, focusing on the one time your partner had a noticeable lesion is a waste of time. For every outbreak she recognizes, there are many other times when you are being exposed to asymptomatic viral shedding.
My other general comment, scanning your questions but not yet reading them carefully, is that both the questions and my answers are speculative. The way to know whether or not you are infected is to have a blood test. All else will be guesswork.
1) All in all, the event was low risk because of the condom. I'm not sure 'we' should have a clinical interlude before having sex. Your partner should be on the lookout for lesions if sex is anticipated.
2,3) Most initial herpes has lesions, although they may be pretty mild. Most alert/concerned persons (like you) probably would notice them. But truly asymptomatic infection is not rare. Most recognized cases indeed involve the penis.
4) The pimple on your thigh probably was just a pimple or folliculitis. Yes, multiple lesions are the rule in folliculitis, which is often caused by staph or strep infection. Herpes doesn't generally behave the way you describe.
So as I suggested above, I cannot say whether or not you have acquired your partner's infection. Probably not. But the way to know is to have a blood test.
Final thought: You seem pretty bummed out by your partner's herpes. Given the precautions you describe, most likely you could go through a lifetime of sex and never catch it.
Good luck-- HHH, MD
I had a stinging sensation in the urethra since April. The stinging pain was very intense in the begining. The feeling went from the urethra to my anus. Doctor diagnosed me with HSV 1 and 2 and also said I have NGU. Clamydia (chlamydia), Syphyllis and Gonarhea results came back negative. I used zovirax ointment, the pain subsided little. I was given doxycycline, levaquin. ciproflaxacin, metronidazole. The feeling is mild, I still feel it in the urethra and anus(it's been 10 weeks since the onset). I did use valtrex for a week but the feeling is still there. I'm also taking lysine supplements.
1)My question is could this be due to Herpes or some thing else. I thought Herpes comes and goes. it is not supposed to last this long(10 weeks)?.
2)I did have few pimples on the lips then flu like symptoms and a week later stinging pain in the urethra. The bumps are gone just the feeling in the urethra and anus remain. The doctors can't determine what's causing it.
could it be a viral or bacterial infection?
3)do you recommend I take other antibiotics or get additional test done
Your help is appreciated.
Thanks,
zz564