Welcome to the STD forum. I'll try to help. There really are two important problems here, one medical and the other in the relationship realm.
To the medical issue first: As you apparently have learned, your recent HSV-2 blood test is equivocal. You have a technically positive result of 1.40, but HSV-2 results are not reliable unless 3.5 or greater. That your HSV-1 result is positive makes it even more likely that your HSV-2 result is false.
In judging this, it would be very helpful to know more detail about your past test results. Beyond simply "positive for both 1 & 2", it would be good to know the numerical values. Can you did those out? If not handy, you probably could get them by contacting the doctor or clinic where that test was done. If the results were similar to the current ones, it would almost certainly mean you are not (and never were) infected with HSV-2. If that result was more strongly positive, however, perhaps it was real.
If the early result isn't available, I suggest you have a confirmatory blood test. There are two choices for that. One is to have another test by a different specific method; for example, if your current test was the Focus HerpeSelect test, you could have a BiokitUSA HSV-2 test; discuss it with your doctor or clinic. Alternatively, have an HSV Western blot test, done at the University of Washington lab in Seattle. Your local lab will know how to refer a specimen for that test. WB is more expensive, but it is the ultimate gold standard for HSV blood tests.
As for the relationship, that's not the main focus of this forum. But I am disappointed to learn that your new partner considers the possibility that you have genital herpes as important enough to make her reconsider the relationship. It really isn't appropriate for an impersonal virus, which rarely causes serious health problems, to interfere with love, romance, and commitment. As it happens, probably you don't have HSV-2. But even if you do, I hope she will reconsider her seemingly thoughtless and insensitive response.
I hope this helps. Best wishes-- HHH, MD
HSV 1 - 4.52
HSV 2 - 3.65
Complete loss as to the difference in results. Any direction would be of help
Thanks -
Additional information. Follow up conversation with my Dr.... He was not familiar with BIOKit USA but had heard of the Western Blot. I am opting for the latter early next week. HIs thoughts for the diffferent values were lab conditions and its normal for antibodies to fluctuate. I countered that its quite unusual to have such a significant variance between tests values and lab conditions should be standardized...I am not a dr or scientist but his statements do not make much sense to me. Thanks for your comments!~
The HSV Western blot does not give false positive results. Therefore, you definitely are infected with both HSV-1 and HSV-2. There is no explanation for the varying HSV-2 ELISA results. It just happens and appears to be random; it has no meaning in terms of your infection.
You should assume your HSV-2 infection is genital, and that some of the time, the virus is present in the genital area and can be transmitted to sex partners. You will need to explain this to future sex partners. You can reduce the potential for asymptomatic viral shedding and for transmission by taking an antiviral drug like valacyclovir (Valtrex).
Sorry to hear about the relationship outcome. If it's any consolation, someone who would terminate a relationship solely because of herpes probably would have been likely to find another reason in the not too distant future.
If you're like most people with newly diagnosed herpes, you'll likely have a number of other questions, which is not something this forum usually deals with. I strongly recommend the MedHelp herpes community forum, where the moderators are very knowledgeable professionals who understand herpes well, including relationship issues.
Good luck-- HHH, MD