First, let's discuss the herpes. Did you develop symptoms? Where, mouth or genitals? What test was done? Culture or other test for the virus, from a genital or oral sore? Or just a positive blood test? If a blood test, which virus type? What exactly blood tests were done, both previously and for the more recent test? The answers to these would help me judge whether you in fact acquired herpes during the
sexualCauses of sexual dysfunction
Erection problems
Female sexual dysfunction
Sexual problems overview encounter you describe. It is very rare to acquire HSV from
condomCondoms
Female condoms-protected
vaginalAnterior vaginal wall repair
Causes of vaginal itching
Culture - endocervix
Hydrocele
Hysterectomy
Transvaginal ultrasound
Vaginal bleeding between periods
Vaginal bleeding during pregnancy
Vaginal bleeding in pregnancy
Vaginal cysts
Vaginal discharge or anal sex, so I have to suspect you were infected at some other time -- even with your story of having been tested and negative before. (One example that commonly causes this kind of confusion: If your recent positive test was an IgM antibody test, it can be disregarded. IgM testing is worthless.)
Your doctor is right about the HIV tests. A negative result 25 days after the last possible exposure highly reassuring. Whether or not you have a new herpes infection makes no difference. For definitive proof you don't have HIV, your doctor probably will recommend another test 6-8 weeks after the exposure. You can expect another negative result.
I'm interested to know more about your herpes diagnosis. But relax about HIV.
Best wishes-- HHH, MD
Just curious, what do you mean by your symptoms being bang on for a first outbreak?
Did you have a whole crop of blisters?
Did it hurt?
Did it take 1-2 weeks to heal?
Were you otherwise sick? Fever? Swollen glands? etc...
In otherwords, the Dr. usually says that a true first outbreak can be pretty impressive both with presentation and physical symptoms. If you just had 2 or 3 blisters that went away in a week or so, there is a good chance that what you had was a recurrence and not your initial outbreak.
Just my 2 cents. I am not a Dr.
That does sort of sound like like a first infection (with 2 crops and all) though 6-8 days heal time is still pretty quick unless you were on Valtrex or some other medicine.
Did they type it HSV1 or HSV2? If HSV1 then you won't get as many outbreaks.
The Dr. would probably say that most likely the hand contact wasn't what got you and that it was most likely you had some skin to skin contact with friction where the condom wasn't covering. I guess you didn't notice if she had any sores on her mouth or down below?
Anyway, I have been lurking this board for a while and this sounds like the first time I have heard a confirmed story of someone getting infected during a 1 time condom protected encounter.
Again, very sorry to hear about your situation! It is a real leson for us all.
As already noted by another forum user, If not yet done, you need to learn the virus type, which will make all the difference in predicting frequency of symptomatic recurrences and asymptomatic viral shedding, transmission to future sex partners, and need for treatment. If it's HSV-1 probably you won't have much of a problem in the future.
Congratulations on a level-headed attitude about both the herpes and your HIV risk.
If your Dr. didn't sit down with you and go over all the details/joys of having herpes, he should have.
You could always check out information from reputable sources on the web www.westoverheights.com
www.ahastd.org
Sure sounds like Dr. HHH is surprised about your atypical way of becoming infected. As I said, there have not been too many confirmed transmissions described on this board after someone has used protection. Unless the other partner theory holds water...
Anyway, good luck to you and keep us posted if you want. If you have any questions, your Dr should be able to help. Otherwise, there are plenty of knowledgeable people lurking this board.
It is unlikely you caught the infection more than 3 weeks before onset of symptoms. If you received unprotected oral sex from someone within than limit, she probably is the source. But you might never know for sure. Even if that person has no history of oral herpes, she could still be infected; and in this circumstance, I don't think it would be appropriate to insist that she be tested for HSV. In any case, at this point it really doesn't matter where you caught it.