You have given an excellent description of folliculitis, not herpes. As you may know, folliculitis means hair
follicleFollicle development
Follicle stimulating hormone
Follicle stimulating hormone-ganirilex
Fsh
Hair follicle
Hair follicle anatomy
Hair follicle sebaceous gland inflammation; so you can see a hair coming from the center of most lesions. Also, the presence of overt pus with blood unlike herpes. Herpes lesions are more supferfical and start with red bumps that become blister-like (i.e, with clear fluid).
So the odds are it isn't herpes. But if in doubt, and in particular if in doubt about whether your partner might be infected with herpes, see a health care provider, such as your local health department STD clinic.
Good luck-- HHH, MD