1. this happened in the beginning in November.. so if i or drs haven't seen anything on my penis yet then i shouldn't worry?
Correct.
2. So i should stop thinking that I'm the cause her those dry rough patches on her butt cheek by kissing her?
No.
3. If i somehow had a cold and kissed her could this spread to her butt cheek or no?
no.
Take care. Please don't worry. EWH
Thank you for your help and knowledge on this. i feel so much better! 3 final questions as i stating to understand.
1. this happened in the beginning in November.. so if i or drs haven't seen anything on my penis yet then i shouldn't worry?
2. So i should stop thinking that I'm the cause her those dry rough patches on her butt cheek by kissing her?
3. If i somehow had a cold and kissed her could this spread to her butt cheek or no?
Thank you
Welcome back to the Forum. I'll try to help. There are two main types of herpes infections, HSV-1, the virus that causes most cold sores and a smaller amount of genital herpes and HSV-2, the virus that almost exclusively causes genital herpes. In both cases, the virus is transmitted from person to person through direct contact; even though it is spread mostly by direct contact, interestingly, most contacts to infected persons do not lead to infection. We estimate that if sores/lesions of herpes are present, the virus is transmitted at a rate of about 1 in 10,000 contacts/exposures. If you have a partner that is infected but does not have sores of lesions, the likelyhood of infection is even less- less than one infection in 10,000 exposures. Thus most exposures to pesons with herpes do not lead to infection.
Thus, if your received oral sex from a person with infection, you could (but probably would not) get genital herpes due to HSV-1, the cold sore virus. You would know this becasue sores would form at the site of exposure (your penis). If you cuaght genital herpes in this way, you would not have oral infection and could not spread it to your partner through kissing.
There is a blood test for HSV but we do not recommend it. There are problems with false positive resutls from the blood tests, Further, since about 60% of Americans, and a high proportion in other settings, have HSV-1 but do not know it. Thus if you had a blood test and it showed you have HSV-1, it would not tell you when you got it or where the infection was, thus it would not be a helpful test to you.
I hope these comments are helpful for YOU. If you wish to learn more about the herpes viruses and the infections that they cause, I would suggest that you take a look at the web site of the American Sexual Helath Association (ASHA)- they have a lot of useful information on HSV. EWH