Two-part (or multipart) questions are fine. The rule is against rpeated new threads (max 2 per 6 months), but individual ones often have more than one question.
Most important, since you get cold sores, you already have HSV-1. That makes you immune (or at least highly resistant) to catching a new HSV-1 infection. You're never going to get genital herpes due to HSV-1, regardless of oral sex with partners with oral herpes. Your own facial herpes isn't because you're catching it again from your wrestling opponents; it is because the minor trauma to your nose and face triggers recurrences at those sites. In other words, it is your own infection that pops up again, not new infections from your opponents skin. (The main risk from wrestling is that you can transmit your infection to your opponents bodies, e.g. arms, trunk, neck, etc. That's a well-known problem among wrestling competitors, called 'herpes gladiatorum'. Most high school and university wrestling rules forbid wrestlers with oral herpes to compete when they are having outbreaks.)
But from an STD standpoint, there is no risk to you from HSV-1--even with more standard forms of oral sex, and certainly no significant risk from the tongue-only, light contact that you describe. However, I still would recommend a little common sense; it would still be wise to avoid oral sex if you partner is in the middle of an oral herpes outbreak--just to be completely safe.
Good luck-- HHH, MD