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Hi,

I started dating this guy a few weeks ago and we finally had sex about 5 days ago. He said that when he penetrated he felt, and i quote, 'weird bumps either in or outside my vagina. He's now paranoid that I gave him genital herpes and he messaged me today saying that he wasn't feeling well ( although he didn't go into details). I myself have never had any physical symptoms, and have been in two previous long term relationships, but went to get tested anyways to confirm. Is it possible that I do have herpes..or that I gave him herpes..even though we only slept together briefly once ?  The thought of it makes me physically ill, especially considering that if I did do so I had no clue i had the virus..since I never had any outbreaks of any kind.
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The chances of contracting the virus from a one time encounter is very low. You have a 4% chance of contracting the virus with a year of unprotected sex. It's good that you're being tested just to know your status. "Not feeling well" is such a vague statement on his part and it's probably nothing. I think that being in two long term relationships where neither partner exhibited symptoms is a good sign for you though. I'm not a doctor but that's just my opinion.
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First of all when your getting blamed for something this serious you need to lay out all the possibilities. Like how do you know he knew he had it didn't tell you gave it to you to make you think you gave him the virus?? I'msaying this because you said you got tested before him correct?
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