Question 3 first, because it is central to your other questions: You are right. The higher the risk of HIV exposure, the more important it is to be tested later rather than earlier. Although your negative result 8 weeks after possible exposure is highly (probably almost 99%) reliable, because you are in a country where heterosexual transmission of HIV is very common, you should be tested again at 3 months. (See other threads on "time to positive HIV test" for information about why the level of risk influences this.)
1 and 2) Having said that, the test result remains infinitely more reliable than symptoms as an indicator of HIV infection. "Furry" (or coated) tongue has lots of potential causes in addition to HIV. And yes, tongue abnormalities are much more likely with late than early HIV infection. 4) You aren't being an idiot by any means, but your symptoms do not suggest HIV.
5) Other comments? First, your 8 week test result makes it extremely unlikely you acquired HIV during the exposure you describe--but get tested again in another month. Second, for goodness' sake, what the heck are you doing having unprotected sex (assuming this was a non-monogamous context) in South Africa??!! Don't do it again.
Best wishes. Get (and stay) safe. HHH, MD
pay attention to section 3 Clinical, while it is seen in patients with HIV it is not a symptom of HIV. it is mostly seen in people who drink a lot of tea or coffee or use tobacco products. also can be in result to poor oral hygiene
HHH, MD
Thanks Doc now Im shitting myself.
Hope things work out for you.
HHH, MD
But this discussion is over. Politics and broad social issues, beyond STD/HIV, are not accepteable in this forum. Further comments along those lines will be deleted.
HHH, MD
I respect your work on this forum tremendously so I don't want to write anything that sounds critical. But I think that some of those social/political questions are inevitable, because a lot of the advice you give on the forum goes beyond medicine and rests upon assumptions about population groups.
For instance, I remember one thread in which a woman was told it was okay to perform oral sex on straight men, but risky to perform it on bisexual men.
Gay men who have had unprotected sex are routinely told to get an HIV test at 3 months, while straight men who have had unprotected sex are told they don't need to get tested at all.
While the advice varies, sometimes heterosexuals are told it's enough to get tested at 6 weeks and call it a day, while "gay men" are told they have to get further testing; without any real weight attached to whether the individuals involved are promiscuous or not.
While I agree with everyone on this thread who expressed outrage over the seeming racism of the white South African's comments, I can't see much difference between his reasoning and the general reasoning of the advice on this forum, when people are told that gay and bi men are innately at greater risk of HIV, merely by *being* gay and bi.
Given the same statistics, it would be just as easy for a doctor to advise, as many do, that people show the same level of caution, and test with the same timeframe, based on the sexual act and its associated risk; not based on the social identity of people involved. Stereotypes and politics play a big role.
I won't harp on this point since I've posted about it like 10 times or so on here. I just think that people ought to show the same sensitivity to sexual orientation stereotypes, that they show to racial stereotypes.
Hope the springtime finds everyone well.
Best wishes,
J
Thank you for your help Dr HHH