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Is he lying to me?

I recently found out that my boyfriend of more than a year might have Gonorrhea.  He went to the Doctor complaining of painful urination, and when his prostate looked find, the Dr said he needed to be tested for Gonorrhea and Chlamydia.  I immediately went to my doctor to be tested for the same things and was treated as well that same day as a precaution.  Well unfornately my test for Gonorrhea did come up positive.  

I keep asking my boyfriend if he has slept with anyone in the last year and a half, and he repeatly tells me NO!!  How is this possible? There is no way that he could have been completely faithful to me the time we were together right?  I myself have been 100% faithful, otherwise i wouln't be freakin out like this!!  

Is there any other way to pass this along besides having sexual relations??  Or could he have had this a year ago.  Because he did have the same painful urination before we met but was treated for prostatsis.  Do you have any answers to possible ease my anxiety??
Thanks for your time and advice
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207091 tn?1337709493
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I agree - its possible, but you need to have a talk with your bf.

Aj
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I read from a Dr's advice once and he said most men see symptoms in 2-5 days but could take up to a month. But he put that percentage at only like 1%-2%. But not knowing what he was treated with before you can never tell what that medicine did to his body. Not saying it gave him gonorrhea but without knowing what he took no one can say what it could do. And the best answer for that is a Dr.

If he did lie to you can cheat it is not the end of the world and it does not mean it is the end of the relationship. That would be for you to decide but like AJ said you really need to sit down and talk with him about what is going on.
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But is there anyway that he could have been mistreated by his doctor and have been carrying Gonorrhea for the past year??  Can it stay in your body for a year?  I only read it takes only a month to see symptons
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207091 tn?1337709493
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Do you know what medication he got last year when he was treated for prostatitis?  

You don't know that he did anything yet, so try and keep calm.  If he says he was tested, though, and was negative then, and positive now, its a new infection - at least in the last year.  Maybe he needs to get copies of these test results of his.

If he wasn't really tested, and lied just because he thought he was std-free, then you only know he lied about that, and you don't know that he cheated.  I don't know if that's much of a consolation, though.  You still ended up lied to.

Sounds like you all have some talking to do.  

Aj
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Well he was never tested for stds at that time he was treated for prostatsis, only treated.  Is it possible that he could have had gonorrhea then?  I could of sworn he told me that in the begining of this year he was tested for stds and came up negative. We both got a shot and two pills...i can't remember what off the top of my head.  

He tells me that he hasn't been with anyone else.  but I HAVE PROOF cause i have a STD!!!!!   I never thought he would be the type of guy to due this to me and i am so incredibly heartbroken and DISGUSTED!  
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207091 tn?1337709493
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Oh and how long before you were with him were you with someone else?

And how are they treating you for this?

Aj
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207091 tn?1337709493
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Wow - I'm sorry, because I am not going to give you really good info here, and it probably won't help clear things up.

When he was treated for a prostate infection, was he tested for gonorrhea?  If he was negative then, and positive now, its a new infection.  If he wasn't tested, its going to be hard to know for sure when he got it.  What was he treated with?  He might need to get some records from his doctor, because if he had similar symptoms then, and wasn't tested for stds, his doctor is severely lacking.

Typically, men won't go that long without symptoms though, but its only a "typical."  You could go that long without symptoms, and no one would question it.

You asked him if he had sex - have you asked about oral sex?  He could get this from someone giving him oral sex, too.  I don't mean to suggest he's lying or playing word games here - I don't know him at all to suggest that, but I'm just putting out the ways that he could get this.

How long before you was he with another person?

Sorry - I know it seems I have more questions than answers.

Aj

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