Welcome to the STD forum. The bottom line is that almost certainly you do not have genital herpes.
First, it is doubtful you were exposed to herpes. Since your only sex partner was a virgin before your contact with her, she could not have had herpes simplix virus type 2 (HSV-2), which is only acquired genitally by sex. If she had oral herpes (cold sores), your penis could have been exposed to HSV-1, but when HSV-1 causes genital herpes it typically causes only the initial outbreak plus one or two more, then none.
Second, your symptoms do not suggest gential herpes. Genital herpes outbreaks always recur in more or less the same spot every time, within an inch or so; do not generally occur in the pubic area; recur no more often then every 4-6 weeks, last 1-2 weeks each time, and there are no symptoms at all between outbreaks; and they do not cause the sort of bumps that have white material inside with bleeding afterwards.
This sounds like garden variety acne or folliculitis, i.e. hair follicle infections. You should see a health care provider for reassurance about it. Your symptoms are so unlike herpes that you really don't even need to mention your sexual activity. Just describe your symptoms and, if you have lesions at the time, show them to the provider. You can be sure s/he won't even think of herpes.
In summary, it isn't herpes for 3 reasons: almost certainly no exposure; symptoms that don't suggest herpes; and symptoms that do suggest an obvious other diagnosis. So truly don't worry. You don't have it.
Best wishes-- HHH, MD
1. Does genital herpes cause lower back pain?
2. Are the outbreaks caused by genital herpes painful?
3. Is there such a thing as mild genital herpes, which could be misdiagnosed as something other than herpes?
Thank you.
1) No back pain from herpes.
2) Herpes is usually at least a little painful but pain can be mild.
3) Yes. But not what you have. Herpes simply does not cause widespread bumps on the scrotum. Never.Mild herpes is otherwise typical, just like I described above.
You're going to have to accept the reality that your worst fears have not come true and you don't have herpes. You are unnecessarily worried about it. Next time you get a sports physical or otherwise see a doctor, show him or her your scrotal skin. I'll bet it's normal.
That's all for this thread. Please accept the reassurance and move on.