My GF has herpes and concerned as we getting married

Question

My girlfriend discovered genital herpes 3 yrs back with couple of out breaks. she was tested by doing the biopsy . Now usually she gets 1 or 2 out break / cold sore on her vagina on the left side which is also outside the vagina lining probably after every 6 to 8 months. she was prescribed medicine called Acyclovera. she is completely free from any other STD . i have had many intercourses and haven't got anything on my penis. if she starts getting hit she takes the medicine and it is gone . As far as i know that if there is not a outbreak on her that means completly clean then i would not get herpes during intercourse. seems like her immune is pretty strong and she gets after many months if she is stressing out . how much i am safe and how can i take precautions ?. it is been 6 months i have had sex many times and nothing has happened to me . Also what if we wanna have kids or prgenency time does the kids get it too ?

Bob1212 · Answer

This is reversed but I have had it for 15 years and been married for 12 now and my wife has never contracted it. I feel it coming on with a few sharp "pin stab" pains now and then for a day or 3 before any outbreaks or "inbreaks"(sores inside urethra) show up.  We either refrain or use condom and she is still clean.

auntiejessi · Answer

The frequency of her outbreaks might decrease in time.  Some people do get fewer outbreaks, others don't.

I don't know if there has been a study or any research into circumcision or not.  It is thought that not being circumcised might increase the chance of some stds, but I don't know about herpes.

Have you ever been tested?  You should have a type specific IgG herpes blood test to find out if you already have it.  You could have it and not get any symptoms.

Aj

manp · Answer

thanks for the answer. so i understand that chances for low for me to get herpes if my gf has no symptom or outbreak of herpes . also she gets outbreaks may be after 5-6 months . does these outbreaks reduce after several years. also i am not circumsized so if i am having unprotected intercourse when she has no outbreaks will that can reduce the risk of me not having it ?

auntiejessi · Answer

Hi there - 

It is not completely safe to have sex even without sores, but the chance is much lower.

If all you ever do is to avoid sex during symptoms, then you have a 96% chance of NOT getting this from her per year.  If she were to take the acyclovir suppressively (every day), then you have a 98% chance of not getting it from her.

The only dangers for pregnancy and herpes are if the mother was infected during the last 3 months of pregnancy, or if the mother has an outbreak at the time of delivery.  Your fiancee will be closely monitored during pregnancy, and might be put on suppression during the last 6 weeks of her pregnancy to prevent an outbreak at delivery.  If she did have an outbreak, they would do a c-section.

Aj