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Hi all, about 3 weeks ago I was told I have HSV-1. I had my first (and so far last) outbreak on my genitals and was treated over the course of 10 days with Valtrex. In the last 8 weeks, however, I have been talking to a guy that I think has a ton of potential for a monogamous relationship. This weekend, I was extremely intoxicated and this guy (who had also been drinking) wanted to come over. We ended up sleeping together (for the first time) but he took off the condom mid-intercourse. It all happened so quickly, I didn't know what to say or how to act. I was already pretty wasted, and sex ended quickly after the condom removal.
I've been reading up on type 1 quite a bit, and it seems to shed very rarely and I don't have any obvious symptoms of anything. I've been off of the Valtrex for almost a week now. I think the chances of him having contracted type 1 from me are extremely low. But if I get involved in a monogamous relationship with this guy, I will have to tell him. I just don't know what to say when he asks about our encounter this weekend. Is it best for me to say I didn't know at the time, and that I just found out? I really like this guy, I just have no idea when to say something or how to say something. HELP
I've been reading up on type 1 quite a bit, and it seems to shed very rarely and I don't have any obvious symptoms of anything. I've been off of the Valtrex for almost a week now. I think the chances of him having contracted type 1 from me are extremely low. But if I get involved in a monogamous relationship with this guy, I will have to tell him. I just don't know what to say when he asks about our encounter this weekend. Is it best for me to say I didn't know at the time, and that I just found out? I really like this guy, I just have no idea when to say something or how to say something. HELP
First, you were having condom-protected sex. HE took it off, not you.
You should have said something, but you were drunk. That gets you off the hook a bit and he knows he's taking a risk with a drunk person-inhibitions are down, decision-making is poor.
He may or may not want to be in a relationship. I wish you luck with that. If he does, ok, if he doesn't, there are other fish on the sea.
If it helps, I was in a similar situation ten years ago. Had unprotected sex with a woman. She later got tested and discovered she had herpes 2, presumably for years. She contacted me and told me and I got tested-negative.
We dated for years, she took the drugs, we had unprotected sex for years, I never got herpes-have tested negative many times since then.
Good luck to you! Seems best to start with the truth. I don't think you can be blamed for this guy's pulling condom off on mid-sex. By the way, if you DO end up dating him, maybe full STD tests for both-especially him-are in order?
You should have said something, but you were drunk. That gets you off the hook a bit and he knows he's taking a risk with a drunk person-inhibitions are down, decision-making is poor.
He may or may not want to be in a relationship. I wish you luck with that. If he does, ok, if he doesn't, there are other fish on the sea.
If it helps, I was in a similar situation ten years ago. Had unprotected sex with a woman. She later got tested and discovered she had herpes 2, presumably for years. She contacted me and told me and I got tested-negative.
We dated for years, she took the drugs, we had unprotected sex for years, I never got herpes-have tested negative many times since then.
Good luck to you! Seems best to start with the truth. I don't think you can be blamed for this guy's pulling condom off on mid-sex. By the way, if you DO end up dating him, maybe full STD tests for both-especially him-are in order?
Agreed. Fair statement. Easier said than done. I feel like that will ruin all possibilities of a relationship. But you are right
You could just tell him the truth. Probably a good way to start the relationship.
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