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Nervous about exposure
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I have been with my wife for 15 years and have been faithful for that full time. 7 weeks ago while traveling on business I had sex with a woman I met in a bar. I wore a condom however the first condom broke and it was at least 5-10 mins after before I put another condom on so I had unprotected exposure.
First I will say I have had an extremely emotional time dealing with what I did and how it could effect my family that I love. I have anxiety, fear, depression and difficulty showing my spouse emotion. Day 6 I wento to doctor and had swab test done and blood test, also was given 7 days of amoxicylin. Chlamydia and Gonaria test negative and syphyliss test and HIV negative. Day 24 I go back to doctor because I think I have discomfort in penis and testicles so swab test done again, he says it is my bowels causing the pain and need to stop beating myself up. All results on blood test and swab are negative. Day 46 I am still worried and go get oral HIV test from free clinic and that is negative.
I feel like I have irritation or buring on end of penis but see nothing that looks different, I look at the penis 10 times a day and think about my mistake constantly.
1) Is there anything else that you think could possibly be wrong and why I feel the irritation
2) Can my mind really make me feel the discomfort from guilt and anxiety even if nothing is there
3) I don't know if the blood test was done for herpes, should I be retested?
4) Was the 24 day test for chlamydia and gonoria conclusive?
5) Was the HIV test at 45 days being negative a good sign and are the oral test as good as the blood test
6) I am going back to the doctor in 3 weeks for a routine appointment but not sure if the discomfort should be addressed before hand. Would the swab pick up NGU as well
I have been with my wife for 15 years and have been faithful for that full time. 7 weeks ago while traveling on business I had sex with a woman I met in a bar. I wore a condom however the first condom broke and it was at least 5-10 mins after before I put another condom on so I had unprotected exposure.
First I will say I have had an extremely emotional time dealing with what I did and how it could effect my family that I love. I have anxiety, fear, depression and difficulty showing my spouse emotion. Day 6 I wento to doctor and had swab test done and blood test, also was given 7 days of amoxicylin. Chlamydia and Gonaria test negative and syphyliss test and HIV negative. Day 24 I go back to doctor because I think I have discomfort in penis and testicles so swab test done again, he says it is my bowels causing the pain and need to stop beating myself up. All results on blood test and swab are negative. Day 46 I am still worried and go get oral HIV test from free clinic and that is negative.
I feel like I have irritation or buring on end of penis but see nothing that looks different, I look at the penis 10 times a day and think about my mistake constantly.
1) Is there anything else that you think could possibly be wrong and why I feel the irritation
2) Can my mind really make me feel the discomfort from guilt and anxiety even if nothing is there
3) I don't know if the blood test was done for herpes, should I be retested?
4) Was the 24 day test for chlamydia and gonoria conclusive?
5) Was the HIV test at 45 days being negative a good sign and are the oral test as good as the blood test
6) I am going back to the doctor in 3 weeks for a routine appointment but not sure if the discomfort should be addressed before hand. Would the swab pick up NGU as well
The answer to #2 is YES YES YES YES your mind can absolutely feed off of guilt and anxiety and cause you to feel symptoms you are stressing over. Constant looking is not helping.
The answer to 4 and 6 is also yes.
HIV is conclusive at 3 months (90 days)
My answer to #1 is NO, and as for #3, sure, it wouldn't hurt to know your status for sure, but it would be best to do it at the 4 month mark.
The answer to 4 and 6 is also yes.
HIV is conclusive at 3 months (90 days)
My answer to #1 is NO, and as for #3, sure, it wouldn't hurt to know your status for sure, but it would be best to do it at the 4 month mark.
You should also ask to get HSV type specific tested by blood next time you go get tested to really have comfirmation it is not herpes. It only takes one time and even protected. Swab really is not good unless you have a open lesion that can be swabbed to detect the virus.
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