In regard to your overall history: I would want to know for sure that you have a negative HSV-2 blood test, or that a genital lesion was tested an found to be positive for HSV-1. Longstanding recurrences of genital HSV-1 are atypical (with or without shaving), and it is conceivable you have both oral HSV-1 and genital HSV-2.
Your continuing symptoms for 3 months almost certainly are not due to herpes, unless part of the symptoms are due to anxiety over the possibility. (This might account for tingling and itching, but not a persisting blister.) You should visit a herpes-knowledgeable provider to examine the area. Contrary to popular opinion, stress has never been shown (with scientific rigor) to trigger herpes recurrences, and it definitely does not delay healing.
Certainly a partner's severe sore throat could be herpes, just as for your initial HSV-1 infection. Of course, he could have a garden-variety viral pharyngitis; he needs professional evaluation to know. If it is herpes, kissing is by far the most likely route of infection. As I said, your genital area symptoms almost certainly aren't herpes; asymptomatic shedding of genital HSV-1 isn't nearly as frequent as for HSV-2; and indirect transmission routes, like genital-hand-mouth, are very rare if they occur at all. Most people with oral herpes have at least occasional asymptomatic shedding in or around the mouth, regardless of whether or not there are recurrent oral symptoms.
Bottom lines: Both you and your partner should visit a herpes-knowledgeable health care provider (perhaps together) for accurate assessment of your respective problems. Depending on the outcome of the providers' assessment, including appropriate lab tests, it will be easier to know who is infected with what and where.
I hope this helps. Best wishes-- HHH, MD
Thanks for you response doctor! My initial genital outbreak came back positive for HSV -1 and negative for HSV-2 (I saw the report...I am an R.N.). My throat was never swabbed. Another couple of quick questions (if you get a chance). What is the tingling/tickling sensation that happens before an outbreak? Is that the prodromal symptoms? Would one be considered contagious at the prodromal stage...or is it just when the blister appears?